No Solution

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

How is my image not the problem? I don't have a problem with who I am. Women have said that I am too ugly on the outside to date. What does that have to do with the inside? I am not trying to extravagant anything about this. Large numbers of women have said to my face and near me that I am the worst looking man there is with no chance because of my looks. I have spoken to many women with confidence and gotten no where.

I am comfortable with who I am, but at the same time I look for self-improvement. Who shouldn't look for self-improvement? I'm not talking about any surgery for my ears. This is just for my well being and life.

I hate the fact that this topic is going in circles. I know for a fact that people in this thread would believe me if they actually witness my experiences with women. However that is not possible over the internet.

When it comes to professional help I know some psychologist and sociologist at school. They are amazed at my situation and are somewhat confused. They think I am a good looking person, but the way women see me as the ugliest man confuses them. People tell me that I am funny, respectful, gentlemen, and nice looking. Like I said women see the first three things, but see my looks as a hot mess. What really amazes sociologist teachers and majors is that women of a lower social status than me won't even think about giving me any time regardless that I am of a higher social class.

[CleverName]

Someone please delete this thread.

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

. What really amazes sociologist teachers and majors is that women of a lower social status than me won't even think about giving me any time regardless that I am of a higher social class.

You have now revealed to me just how much of a jerk you are by the above statement


Higher social class ye gawds Im lost for words at your attempt to stroke your ego...

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

Like I said women see the first three things, but see my looks as a hot mess.

A HOT MESS?

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Originally Posted by nuttychick

You have now revealed to me just how much of a jerk you are by the above statement


Higher social class ye gawds Im lost for words at your attempt to stroke your ego...

It had nothing to do with ego. If you knew anything about sociology then you would have understood what was actually being said.

I'm don't think I am better than anyone else regardless of social status.

The chances of someone moving up in social status in a life time is very slim. They will most likely marry in their same social class. There are some people who would marry someone of a higher status to just get out of their lower social status.

One thing about my generation that is happening is that unlike past generations we are not expected to do better than our parents. So the chances of moving up in the world gets worse for my generation.

[EvilEvilKitten]

50 plus pages and he STILL hasn't a clue!

[Humble]

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

No one is to blame for this. Moving to another city and/or state will not bring a solution.

Actually, I think dancingdoc2 may well be right and moving might bring about a solution. Even if it is your physical appearance that prevents you from dating, standards of beauty and what beauty standard is acceptable for dating are spread through social circles. If the social clique in your area has already made up its mind that you are ugly and therefore no dating material, it may be difficult for you to escape that perception while staying in the same place - people in a given place tend to communicate and girls might be embarrassed in front of their friends to date you, as it would create a perception that they had to 'settle' for you, because they couldn't find somebody more beautiful. In that sense, moving to a different area, where you haven't acquired this reputation yet, may indeed be a solution.

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

50 plus pages and he STILL hasn't a clue!

I had a good talk to my friend yesterday. He told me he never really noticed my ears, and other people have said this. My friends have told me that getting surgery for my ears is not necessary.

I just need to accept who I am and stop worrying my faults that I cannot control. God made me this way for his own reasons.

Originally Posted by Humble

Actually, I think dancingdoc2 may well be right and moving might bring about a solution. Even if it is your physical appearance that prevents you from dating, standards of beauty and what beauty standard is acceptable for dating are spread through social circles. If the social clique in your area has already made up its mind that you are ugly and therefore no dating material, it may be difficult for you to escape that perception while staying in the same place - people in a given place tend to communicate and girls might be embarrassed in front of their friends to date you, as it would create a perception that they had to 'settle' for you, because they couldn't find somebody more beautiful. In that sense, moving to a different area, where you haven't acquired this reputation yet, may indeed be a solution.

Well to take this a bit deeper beauty is not only standardized in a city, but in a country as well. The US media already has created the standard for beauty in this country. This will literately mean to move to another country. Moving to another city would not help me escape "the iron cage" that I am in where I live.

This solution does seem a bit odd. I've never heard of anyone moving to another city to find a relationship because he or she is not acceptable in the dating world where they certainly are.

[CleverName]

What you need to do is stop coming back to this thread, and go out into the real world. There is nothing left to say here.

PLEASE STOP. Whats been said has been said, whether or not you listen or care about others advice is up to you, now END THIS.

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Originally Posted by CleverName

What you need to do is stop coming back to this thread, and go out into the real world. There is nothing left to say here.

PLEASE STOP. Whats been said has been said, whether or not you listen or care about others advice is up to you, now END THIS.

Do you own this site? You don't have any rights to tell anyone to come back or not.

I don't understand why everyone is upset with me. I cannot control that nothing is working. Yes, I am referring the advise people gave me. I've been doing this for years before coming to this site. I cannot control that women find me as the worst looking man there is. What power can anyone have to control attraction? No one has such power.

I advise you to take a psychology class. Without physical attraction there cannot be a relationship. Every psychology class will inform you about this.

[funinthesun]

Bill Cosby - "Brain Damage"