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[bayonet777]

ok im off shift what did i miss

[EvilEvilKitten]

welcome bayo - we MAY be getting somewhere.

[bayonet777]

really? ill believe that when i see it

[funinthesun]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

welcome bayo - we MAY be getting somewhere.

That'll only happen if he actually reads the posts word for word instead of stopping and defending himself every time he sees a keyword that triggers his ego. Side note curiosity - perhaps he's from a region where they speak pidgin?(hopefully)

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

You need to stop thinking that dating is "all about you".

What you want - not important.
What you like - not important.
Not yet.

You NEED to start thinking "what does she want"?
You NEED to find out who she is by LISTENING to her WITHOUT making judgments or running it through that filter in your brain.

This means putting yourself second - for now.

You see, you're making a common mistake - you're focusing on "you" but you're not going to be dating "you", you're going to be dating "them" so you NEED to begin thinking about "them". This is exactly like hunting. Try thinking like the tiger to catch the tiger.

Your standards, etc. ONLY come into play AFTER you've gotten a girl(s). Once you have learned how to get and hold a girl's attention, and ignite her desire,THEN you can start bringing your standards, etc. into play. Not before.

and, please, the word is "mad" not "made".

Do you mean to not look for someone who applies to any of my standards or just physically? I will not date just anyone. Why date someone you are not happy with?

I understand dating is not focus on me. I've always try to get to know the girl at least a few months before making the decision if I would like to date her. The reason why I want to date someone is because of the woman and she applies to my standards. She is someone who is at least a friend at the moment and someone I care about already.

[Ell]

I'm confused everyone who has posted has told you what the problem is & you still don't get it???? How is that possible???

[bayonet777]

hes too thick headed to get it

[MIGHTY BOOSH]

Ok dude, now I could be the last person in the world to give advice on women, I'm a year younger than you and just as (in)experienced but I'm getting better, more confident and almost everythings as I want it other than myskills with women.
Trust me dude when you're worse off then me you're in trouble so here's some advice

1. You're a wrestling fan, that's cool so am I (though I'm not that into it now) but that isn't exactly cool at your age, you can enjoy but don't go on about it so much. Oh and no one will like you for calling someone like Edge a WWE super star (even wrestling fans), if you're describing a wrestler just say "Edge" is a wrestler

2. Dragon Ball Z, I recomend you give that up, you can still play the video games but you're a little old for a cartoon, even if it is rather violent. NFL and stuff is cool though there's probably more nerdy stuff in your list of interests.
Every bloke I know plays video games, just don't talk about it that often, they should be a bit of fun not a hobby.

3. Being early for college and getting your work done is good but for God's sake DON'T brag about it!

4. Ok here's 2 options, take everything you like about yourself, e.g being funny maybe, forget look's it's your personality that counts. Take everything you like and in your head create a better more confident version of yourself then become that person.
If there's nothing about yourself you like (there must be smething) then look at someone you admire, like a wrestler and copy them a little, pick up body language (I would tell you to say pick up words they use aswell but with a wrestler you've got to be careful, don't say can you smell what Franklin is cooking or call your self the legand killer). If you pick a wrestler copy their confidence not their toughness

Things that improved my confidence were
1. Acting
2. GYM

Once I found a little confidence from acting it was easy to get more confident because I found all these great characteristics that were there all along. I find confidence unlocks your potential

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, sorry to say but he still does not get it.

Tell me, Rated-R, - virgin?

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from a mature man "Self deluded. A real lost cause !"

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by Mighty Boosh

4. Ok here's 2 options, take everything you like about yourself, e.g being funny maybe, forget look's it's your personality that counts. Take everything you like and in your head create a better more confident version of yourself then become that person.
If there's nothing about yourself you like (there must be smething) then look at someone you admire, like a wrestler and copy them a little, pick up body language (I would tell you to say pick up words they use aswell but with a wrestler you've got to be careful, don't say can you smell what Franklin is cooking or call your self the legand killer). If you pick a wrestler copy their confidence not their toughness

Things that improved my confidence were
1. Acting
2. GYM

Once I found a little confidence from acting it was easy to get more confident because I found all these great characteristics that were there all along. I find confidence unlocks your potential.

This is another way of saying what I suggested in the other thread that he begin doing: acting his way to success. Thank you for the confirmation.

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

Do you mean to not look for someone who applies to any of my standards or just physically? I will not date just anyone. Why date someone you are not happy with?

Not exactly. What we are suggesting is that you broaden your horizons and substitute "standards" for "horizons" or possibilities. You are all hung up on people measuring up to certain numbers on a measuring stick or tape measure. OK, for the sake of argument, let's say you do find five women who fit your criteria--now what? Let's say their personalities and other characteristics do not conform to what you really want to live with?

As for dating, please tell us who you will go out with? Must she first be able to fit within the size mold you have? If so, it is most likely your coffin (read: fate) you have sealed.

It seems to me that candidates must first posses certain iron clad physical attributes before you ever consider what each posses between the ears. I'm suggesting that you be less rigid and more flexible because the chances for finding someone you can love and live with long term will be greatly increased.

You are focused on a potential partner meeting certain physical criteria. I'm saying use these numbers as a guide, not an absolute. If as the old expression goes, you want a gal 5' 2", eyes of blue, with brown hair, don't quibble about being 5' 1" or 5' 4" with hazel eyes. Nor should you only accept one shade of brown hair. What if she decides to wear colored contacts or change the color and style of her hair do in a year? And, a C cup? I won't even go there, except to say what if she just happens to meet every other aspect you believe is crucially important yet does not fit that part of the mold?

What are you going to do when you finally unwrap the "package" and find a stray hair protruding from her cleavage? One breast larger than the other? A bigger or smaller patch of pubic hair than you believe is perfection? One or more skin blemishes? What if she has a laugh that drives you up the wall every time she cackles or who has a voice that can be heard down the street when she speaks normally, yet she meets every other criteria you have?

You do not have to date "just anyone", although, you certainly should not be as inflexible as you are. More importantly, you need to begin focusing on the real person (the brain that you do not see within whatever "package" stands before you) instead of the body image you see. Oh, and there is this, too: Do you envision your male ego getting a boost by walking beside her, hoping passersby will think to themselves, "wow, look at his 'catch'?" A lot of guys do have trophy partners just for this reason. Are you one?

One of the things I mentioned in your other thread is that what will see you through the years is not a particular body shape or style, it is your partner's mind. If you relax and expand the body style of a woman you will date, you may very well find the woman of your dreams on an intellectual and emotional level. You do not seem to understand this and this is why we are all so frustrated with you.

Unless and until you begin dating many women you won't fully appreciate who may rock your world. I probably said this to you before, and if not, many times to many others, that dating is all about learning what humanity has to offer us in a potential partner. In my never to be so humble opinion, you need to begin sifting through the potential candidates for what who and what she truly is, not what the package looks like. You are far too picky and intolerant. So, when it comes time for a person to fit inside your perfect mold, I'm recommending that you over size that mold a bit so that you do not severely limit the possibilities. If a woman can generally meet your physical criteria, then be happy. If she has a mind that intrigues and challenges and entertains you, then you have hit the jackpot--especially if she thinks you are God's gift, regardless of how you look. These women already know what we are attempting to get you to understand.