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[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Originally Posted by nuttychick

My defination of Ghetto (keep in mind Where I live) is poor and black
who live in government housing ...

Sometimes I act like an idiot, use racial slurs (with my maori friends) am rude,loud, use slang words, listen to rap music, and dress in baggy clothes... Am I ghetto???
Because underneath all that I am 5ft 11, 62kgs blonde hair, blue eyes and A DD cup.. With a very respectable Job a husband and 2 kids...

Once you get over your prejudices and look on the inside of people you may find you will become a better person and maybe find a woman....

And please don't spout off at how you aren't prejudice.. because even tho I don't know you in real life I have read all you have written...

and this thread is a waste of space... NO ONE CAN HELP YOU...BUT YOU

Why is everyone telling me to look at the inside? I have said so many times that I DO GET TO KNOW THE PERSON FOR WHO HE(just a friend) OR SHE IS. I don't look at a girl, and say I like her. I may like her looks, but I might not like her personality.

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

Why is everyone telling me to look at the inside? .

Because of what you have typed.. Going on about tits, dress and weight... To me you are just like the creeps who try and hit on good
looking females... they undress you with their eyes and stare at your tits... That is how you are perceived in my eyes (maybe a few others here too) and as I said I don't know you in real life.. so imagine what it maybe like for the woman you approach

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Originally Posted by nuttychick

Because of what you have typed.. Going on about tits, dress and weight... To me you are just like the creeps who try and hit on good
looking females... they undress you with their eyes and stare at your tits... That is how you are perceived in my eyes (maybe a few others here too) and as I said I don't know you in real life.. so imagine what it maybe like for the woman you approach

Everyone looks at someone. I look, but I don't stare. Staring is rude. I never made a girl uncomfortable. I don't make sexual advances to women. To be honest I have not hit on any girls in college.

Like I said members such as yourself IGNORE what I have said. I don't care if a girl has small breast. I will still ask her out. I will still find her to be attractive. AS I SAID MOST GIRLS I HAVE ASKED OUT DON'T HAVE BIG BREAST.

What is the big deal about wanting someone to dress in clean clothes? I don't know about you, but I have seen girls in schools who wear dirty clothes. I have seen girls who look like they don't comb their hair.

As for weight I won't give a fat girl the time of day. I'm not fat, and I keep myself fit. I workout during the week. I try to better myself each and everyday.

I have never looked at a girl, and started to undress her in my mind. Sex is not always on my mind. When I talk to my female friends I never look at them and start to undress them in my mind. Not even the very attractive ones. I am always friendly and nice to people. I give women respect. I don't see them as sex objects. They are people just like me and you.

I believe you and a lot of members have been biased towards me. Your post is an indication on that. I think most of you see me as an ugly guy, and stereotype me of being the ugly creep who spy on women at every moment. I mention I have a breast fetish and people accuse me of not getting to know women. I stated I want a girl to dress nice in clean clothes so I was accused of being controlling. Who wants to be with someone who is NOT groomed?

I know relationships are not all about me. I have to think what she wants in a man. So far women don't want my looks because they told me themselves. They have said to me there is NOTHING wrong with WHO I AM. I have many good relationships with a lot of good people. I am not a bad person. I am well liked by people.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I just have to remember: you can't fix stupid.

So, people - time to move on.

[Humble]

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

Women think I am too ugly to date. I hear girls laughing about my ears. I am not hearing things, I do hear them "look at those ears!" "Freak". I am not just randomly making this an excuse. It's what I have been told by women. They say there is nothing really wrong with me for who I am inside. As I said people in general say I am a good, nice, funny, and sweat person.

OK, so you believe it is your physical appearance that is the root of your problems. Do you believe it is just the ears or are there other things contributing to it?

[King Rick]

Originally Posted by Humble

OK, so you believe it is your physical appearance that is the root of your problems. Do you believe it is just the ears or are there other things contributing to it?

Don't try and understand it... Nobody else is able to.

[springfever]

Well it seems then, there is nothing obvious you can do. I have not seen yout photo, but maybe a new haircut, or clothes...still in keeping with your style, but that may be more attarctive to the opposite sex. I am just speculating here though, as I couldn't see your pic.

You could also try onine dating maybe. I know you have said that this is unsafe, and you don't want to do, but should be ok with the right precautions and company. Alot of people have had success from this.

Apart from that, I have no other advice. I must say, you are begining to seem a lil less of an arogant idiot that you did before. So just hold on in there, be confident, be yourself...Im sure somone will come along eventually. Untill then, enjoy being with your friends, stick to college work...and your hand lol.

Hope to of been of some help

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Originally Posted by springfever

Well it seems then, there is nothing obvious you can do. I have not seen yout photo, but maybe a new haircut, or clothes...still in keeping with your style, but that may be more attarctive to the opposite sex. I am just speculating here though, as I couldn't see your pic.

You could also try onine dating maybe. I know you have said that this is unsafe, and you don't want to do, but should be ok with the right precautions and company. Alot of people have had success from this.

Apart from that, I have no other advice. I must say, you are begining to seem a lil less of an arogant idiot that you did before. So just hold on in there, be confident, be yourself...Im sure somone will come along eventually. Untill then, enjoy being with your friends, stick to college work...and your hand lol.

Hope to of been of some help

I am thinking about moving on from this area of my life because my efforts are just meaningless. Unlike what most people believe for their own entertainment. I do the things people have advised me in this topic. The advise they give me does not work. I am not saying it is bad advise. It just does not help me in any type of way. I am not arrogant person. I don't expect the perfect woman because I am not perfect. I can not dance. I don't have much muscle. I have never attracted any type of woman.

Originally Posted by Humble

OK, so you believe it is your physical appearance that is the root of your problems. Do you believe it is just the ears or are there other things contributing to it?

I believe it is my physical appearance and my ears. I have no problem meeting new girls. I have met some new girls on campus and I am friends with them. I make them laugh and just have fun. However I can only be a friend. There are other girls who will not give me the time of day. Not one girl in my life have shown any interest in dating me. I have never had a girl who flirted with me before. If I do try to flirt they avoid me, walk away, or call me ugly shit.

[springfever]

Well, I dunno why some have claimed you as "ugly" ...coz u r not. You really aren't that bad looking at all, but can understand you being self consious of your ears.

As I said...be urself. You say u hav tried flirting with no success
...how do u generally flirt? ...maybe learning some tactics in this area could avoid you falling into *friend zone*...

[Humble]

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

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I am thinking about moving on from this area of my life because my efforts are just meaningless. Unlike what most people believe for their own entertainment. I do the things people have advised me in this topic. The advise they give me does not work. I am not saying it is bad advise. It just does not help me in any type of way. I am not arrogant person. I don't expect the perfect woman because I am not perfect. I can not dance. I don't have much muscle. I have never attracted any type of woman.

I believe it is my physical appearance and my ears. I have no problem meeting new girls. I have met some new girls on campus and I am friends with them. I make them laugh and just have fun. However I can only be a friend. There are other girls who will not give me the time of day. Not one girl in my life have shown any interest in dating me. I have never had a girl who flirted with me before. If I do try to flirt they avoid me, walk away, or call me ugly shit.

Having now seen your pictures, I don't think your physique is what repels women. You seem to be lean and with everything in the right place, so women should probably find you attractive. Well, yes, the ears do protrude to the sides and are unusual in that sense. I honestly don't know to what extent that would be a dealbreaker for most women - I just don't know. If you truly believe that your ears are your biggest obstacle, it might be worth considering an operation to change that. Yes, you have mentioned that you are unwilling to change for women and that they should like you as you are, but from what you are saying they don't. I am sure a woman will eventually like you for your personality and such, but in order to get to that stage, she probably has to find you physically attractive at least initially. Again, I don't know that your ears are behind this, but since you seem to be pretty convinced that is the case, you have a fairly easy workaround...