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[King Rick]

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

I don't think there is anything wrong with video games. People often label it as geeky material. Some girls said they would not date me because I am a collector of MegaMan. That is why I'm very concerned on how people label me. When I talk to girls now there are somethings like MegaMan and video games that I do not mention to them anymore. I will be working on campus so hopefully I can meet some new girls.



I'm happy with who I am.The things that I listed were not listed in any particular order. I am willing to compromise with women. I have asked out women who like different things and do not like all of my hobbies. I'm more than willing to try something new she enjoys.

That means you also can't look for a girl with a certain chest size (yes I'm bringing this back up). How do you know that "Miss Perfect" is going to look exactly how you want and into the same things you are. Pretty sure the only way this would happen is if you built a robot

[CleverName]

Franklin, just look for girls with the same intrests in you. There are girls who like mega-man and play video games, try to meet them.

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Originally Posted by King Rick

That means you also can't look for a girl with a certain chest size (yes I'm bringing this back up). How do you know that "Miss Perfect" is going to look exactly how you want and into the same things you are. Pretty sure the only way this would happen is if you built a robot

I prefer girls with at least a c cup. Most girls I have asked out on dates have small breast.

Originally Posted by CleverName

Franilin, just look for girls with the same intrests in you. There are girls who like mega-man and play video games, try to meet them.

Sure I'll keep that in mind.

[garnett112]

Hey Franklin, well i just spend like an hour reading over most of the posts and thought of some advice which may be helpful. so here it is: throughout the posts you say that you tell yourself you look good, but this isnt really going to do much unless you really believe it, my advice for this is change your look. you may think that you dont want to change yourself, but all im suggesting is that you maybe change your hair style (gel does it for me), maybe change the colour or length, grow some facial hair or just wear glasses more (i havnt seen a picture of you so im not sure what you look like). around our age (im 18) is all about experimenting, and the look you have right now might not be you.

you also say that you have lots of friends and are pretty popular in school, if thats the case, you should make a facebook or myspace account (which ever one has more of your friends on it) and add your friend's friends, its a good way knowing more people, plus there is no risk. i wouldnt suggest a dating site, but thats just me.

another way to boost your confidence and be more attractive to the opposite is to work out or take up a sport. im just over 6'1 and am pretty thin, and one way i boost my self esteem for this is to go to the gym regularly and run, another good way to meet people.

another way you can meet more people (which in turn leads to a higher probability of meeting someone you really like) is to join some clubs. you like the nba, why not join a social bball team. you say that u dont go to parties, if you have all the friends you say you have, im sure they have parties, and its good to go there, also clubbing is a good way of having fun and meeting girls. something which i strongly recommend to boost your confidence is to do an outward bound course (or something similar - look it up on google), its a great way to gain some confidence, find out who you really are and meet more people.

also to do with your standards, you may think you really like big breasts, but until you actually touch them etc, you cant be sure. so this goes back to experimenting and finding out whats out there, you may find you're not that attracted to C cups as you thought you were.

so im not sure how much of this helps, if any, but that is some advice which i have found is pretty useful. also ive touched on a few topics which you may have solved or something, so all good if no of this is relate (hopefully some is), it may be a good idea to tell us where u are at now, like are all the problems still the same etc. also i cant be bothered reading over this, so there will probably be quite a few mistakes and sentences which dont make sense.

ps. delete your membership to brazzers, dont pay for porn when you can get it for free.

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Originally Posted by garnett112

Hey Franklin, well i just spend like an hour reading over most of the posts and thought of some advice which may be helpful. so here it is: throughout the posts you say that you tell yourself you look good, but this isnt really going to do much unless you really believe it, my advice for this is change your look. you may think that you dont want to change yourself, but all im suggesting is that you maybe change your hair style (gel does it for me), maybe change the colour or length, grow some facial hair or just wear glasses more (i havnt seen a picture of you so im not sure what you look like). around our age (im 18) is all about experimenting, and the look you have right now might not be you.

you also say that you have lots of friends and are pretty popular in school, if thats the case, you should make a facebook or myspace account (which ever one has more of your friends on it) and add your friend's friends, its a good way knowing more people, plus there is no risk. i wouldnt suggest a dating site, but thats just me.

another way to boost your confidence and be more attractive to the opposite is to work out or take up a sport. im just over 6'1 and am pretty thin, and one way i boost my self esteem for this is to go to the gym regularly and run, another good way to meet people.

another way you can meet more people (which in turn leads to a higher probability of meeting someone you really like) is to join some clubs. you like the nba, why not join a social bball team. you say that u dont go to parties, if you have all the friends you say you have, im sure they have parties, and its good to go there, also clubbing is a good way of having fun and meeting girls. something which i strongly recommend to boost your confidence is to do an outward bound course (or something similar - look it up on google), its a great way to gain some confidence, find out who you really are and meet more people.

also to do with your standards, you may think you really like big breasts, but until you actually touch them etc, you cant be sure. so this goes back to experimenting and finding out whats out there, you may find you're not that attracted to C cups as you thought you were.

so im not sure how much of this helps, if any, but that is some advice which i have found is pretty useful. also ive touched on a few topics which you may have solved or something, so all good if no of this is relate (hopefully some is), it may be a good idea to tell us where u are at now, like are all the problems still the same etc. also i cant be bothered reading over this, so there will probably be quite a few mistakes and sentences which dont make sense.

ps. delete your membership to brazzers, dont pay for porn when you can get it for free.

I have confidence to talk to women. I have ask many girls on dates and failed every time.

Right now I am focusing on my attitude on the situation. I generally have a good attitude overall in my life. It has been good about this situation for the past few weeks. I am trying to keep it long term. Before my attitude turn bad about this situation it was actually very good. I use to think to myself someone will accept me for who I am. I kept my head up high when I was rejected. My attitude turn bad right after a girl was only talking to me to play games with me. She was one of many girls who have done this to me.

I have not been wearing my sports gear much lately. I have been wearing more polo shirts.

Right now I am not dating anyone. I have not asked a girl on a date since my junior year in high school. I have met new girls in college but I did not know them well enough to ask on a date.

I will be working on campus this year. Hopefully I will meet more new people.

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

I have just moved back into my dorm last weekend. Classes are going good so far. I like all of my teachers. They seem like nice people. I have found a job on campus.

[Zr2_EQX]

That is great! Enjoy the school year!

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Just want to give an update to say what is currently going on. The problem is not better, but not any worst. I've been more active on campus this semester. I've met some new girls on campus, but none who I would want to date.

I still hear the "ugliest piece of shit" comment from girls on campus. They normally say it behind my back. I know they are talking about me because they sometimes mention my ears. Sometimes girls start to laugh at me when they first look at me. I really want to say something to them, but I don't. I just continue to mind my own business. I do not need any drama in my life.

I know my ears are different. I was teased about it early in school by a few kids, but as I got older it rarely happen. Now of days it is either women or a few ghetto stereotypes who talk about my ears, but never to my face.

Other then the few people who talk about my ears, I'm very respected by the people I know. I don't have to worry about such comments being said. I just have a good and fun time with my friends.

I think the main reason why women don't want to date is because of my ears. I think it puts them off. I've met only one person with similar ears as mine's. Women may not take me serious because of them. I thought about having surgery to fix them, but at the time I wanted someone to accept me. I've stayed strong on that decision. I don't want someone to decide to love me after getting surgery because I was born this way. It would not be true love because I would only get love by changing my body. It's not like I disrespected my body by getting out of shape, and not staying clean.

If you don't know what my ears look like here is a picture. I no longer have the glasses in the picture. I now have more stylish glasses.

[lnt1103]

OK, first of all, to the idiots that have issues with your ears: Oh Good Lord people, get over it.

If people are willing to not give you a chance because of a thing like your ears, you don't need them in your life anyway. This is the way you are and people need to accept you for you.

Having said that, however.......

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

I don't want someone to decide to love me after getting surgery because I was born this way. It would not be true love because I would only get love by changing my body. It's not like I disrespected my body by getting out of shape, and not staying clean.

It works both ways, ya know. You need to accept women for themselves also. If you expect women to give up the ear issue, you need to give up the breast size issue.

What if you find a woman whose personality you love, who you can talk and laugh with, who you instantly feel you've known your whole life, who adores you for precisely who you are, and sees the great things about you before she notices your ears, you're both just SO into each other and it really clicks.........

but she's only a B? Or less? Are you really willing to let her go? Or worse, never even take the time to find out if all those things might be true between you? Because of her chest???

Women shouldn't have to match up to a breast size standard, anymore than you should have to live up to an ear standard. We have no more choice in our breasts than you do in your ears. Sure, we could get boob jobs....but then you could get an ear job too (let's be clear that I'm not picking on your ears, but rather making a larger point--I've looked at the pic and I honestly don't see what the big deal is, these people need to get a life). If you don't want surgery because you don't think it would be real love, can you imagine that we might not want it either for the same reason?

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Having small breast is normal. The ears I have are not normal. It is very rare to see ears like mine, and women having small breast is very common. I don't normally hear people teasing women for having small breast. I have never teased a woman for having small breast. Having small breast is socially accepted, and many people I know don't see it as a bad thing.

I would date a girl with a nice b cup, but nothing less. If me and her really connect then I should take advantage of the opportunity.

Speaking about connecting with girls. I don't get much of a chance to connect with a lot of girls. I think they don't take me serious as well because of my ears. I expect boys to disrespect me more, but it mostly has been women in college.