Lost Hope

[EvilEvilKitten]

He waited until he was 30 and I waited until I was 11. No regrets here either!

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Originally Posted by funinthesun

It's only fair to point out that the majority of the girls that he is likely to meet at that age are just that and not women - so be prepared to spend a good amount of time looking. Also, since you are in college now, it would probably help to improve your English.

As for the mean streak - that has to go. There is a big difference between protecting yourself or others and making sure that others know that they've made a mistake and simply trying to get revenge to make yourself feel better. This is very, very important, because if you are ever truly successful at something, then so many of the people you meet will be trying to use/abuse/cheat you to get what you have that staying your current course would mean it consumes all of your time and energy.

My English is just fine. That has nothing to do with this issue.

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

You want a slender woman with a C cup pair of breasts - oookay. Perhaps female anatomy has passed you by but you should realise that she doesn't usually get big breasts unless she is big elsewhere as well. You might find the odd girl out but really - don't expect it. Strike 1.

People found you cool BUT the women didn't flock to you and you don't like parties. Translated = no fun. Strike 2.

The whole macho/respect me attitude - chip on your shoulder. Strike 3.

You're in college now. Look around and see those women who are getting the grades? Those are the ones to go after. SLOWLY. Yeah they may not be beauties but you know - they tend to be better persons.

Women like confidence without arrogance. They like men who are comfortable in their own skins. They really do not give a damn about your ears, etc. It is the person not the packaging that matters. Women also like to have fun. I suggest you learn how to dance and then go to parties and dance with as many women as you can talk into it. Do not give up. Please note, I said women not girls.

You have a lot of growing up left to do but it will come.

Well as I said I don't like women with small breast nor fat women. What is so wrong about liking only slender women with big breast? It does not matter if they are natural or fake. Going through high school and just a year of college I've seen plenty of women(the real world, not porn) who has at least a C cup and are slender.

As I said before women were not interested in me when I had confidence. Having confidence did not help me. Some of the women I've asked on dates and others that I did not, said to me or friends, that the main reason why they would not give me a chance was because I'm ugly. That is the only reason that has ever been given to me directly or forwarded to my friends(the most trusted ones). I did not ask my friends to help me. The girls wanted to go to them instead of saying it directly to me, and they thought I would be hurt.

How am I being macho? I'm just like everyone who wants to be respected. I don't start fights nor issues with people. I don't go looking for that.

How is not going to parties makes me no fun? That is just one activity that I'm not into. Unlike some people how has a similar issue, I have hobbies and I actually do things. Also unlike some people with this problem, I actually asked several women on dates. I think my issue is being judged like I'm not trying and I'm a boring person who does nothing.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Because most human beings from time immemorial and before there was written history have been gathering together and having parties! So, it is somewhat hard-wired that parties = fun and therefore no parties = no fun. In this game of dating, your interests aren't as important as hers and most women are very social and adore parties.

You are confusing respect (which must be earned) with civility (which is due to everyone simply because they're human) - stop doing that. You earn respect through accomplishment and service - not just by breathing.

Nothing wrong with liking slender women, but since slender means an absence of fat and breasts are mostly fat - slender women tend to have smaller breasts. Just how it goes. I'm encouraging you to also adopt the "it's the person not the packaging" attitude. Since you get what you give in this life and if you want her to overlook your "ugliness" you might try opening up your mind as well.

Biological evolutionists will tell you that the reason why most men prefer slender women is because slender means she's not pregnant so you're in with a chance. They will also tell you that the whole big breast and hips thing is all about child-bearing and child-feeding - and not because of tit-fucking.

Telling someone something negative usually does hurt their feelings. Ugly? How so? Confident? I doubt it was the "confidence without arrogance" that I specified. You can be as "cocky" and "macho" as you want but unless it is innate and without the "strut of arrogance" or "penis-waving" - it won't work and your show of 'confidence' will feel false to women.

Didn't say you weren't trying. Said you were going about it in the wrong way and asking out the wrong women for the wrong reasons.

Of course you're being judged!! I am an adult and that is what adults do.

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Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Because most human beings from time immemorial and before there was written history have been gathering together and having parties! So, it is somewhat hard-wired that parties = fun and therefore no parties = no fun. In this game of dating, your interests aren't as important as hers and most women are very social and adore parties.

You are confusing respect (which must be earned) with civility (which is due to everyone simply because they're human) - stop doing that. You earn respect through accomplishment and service - not just by breathing.

Nothing wrong with liking slender women, but since slender means an absence of fat and breasts are mostly fat - slender women tend to have smaller breasts. Just how it goes. I'm encouraging you to also adopt the "it's the person not the packaging" attitude. Since you get what you give in this life and if you want her to overlook your "ugliness" you might try opening up your mind as well.

Biological evolutionists will tell you that the reason why most men prefer slender women is because slender means she's not pregnant so you're in with a chance. They will also tell you that the whole big breast and hips thing is all about child-bearing and child-feeding - and not because of tit-fucking.

Telling someone something negative usually does hurt their feelings. Ugly? How so? Confident? I doubt it was the "confidence without arrogance" that I specified. You can be as "cocky" and "macho" as you want but unless it is innate and without the "strut of arrogance" or "penis-waving" - it won't work and your show of 'confidence' will feel false to women.

Didn't say you weren't trying. Said you were going about it in the wrong way and asking out the wrong women for the wrong reasons.

Of course you're being judged!! I am an adult and that is what adults do.

All because someone does NOT go to most parties make them boring. You act as if nothing else I do in my life matters. I did mention that I do attend birthday parties and parties for soldiers who return from Iraq. You can't completely judge someone as boring all because the person does not do one thing. That is going to far. That would be like saying someone is stupid all because they made one error.

I don't know where you are from. However I have seen plenty of slender women with big breast. As I said, I don't care if they are natural or fake.Yes I know about why men are attracted to large breast. I looked the information about that subject two years ago in my high school psychology class.

You are not understanding me at all. What I mean by respect is that don't disrespect me. You may not like me but don't disrespect me. Don't try to start a fight with me. Do not call me by racial slurs nor talk about my family. That is not being macho at all. I never go off on someone who has done nothing wrong to me. People in general do not want to be disrespected in the examples that I have given you.

Here is an real example of me going off on someone. I had a crush on this girl in high school. This girl lied that she was interested in me. We had one class together in high school. She wrote me a lot of love letters. However at the time she had a boyfriend(I did not know at first). When I found out she avoided my question and later told me she never liked me. That pissed me off. I have never and will never respect her after that. She simply had the option not to lie to me that she was interested in me. She came on to me. This could have been avoided by her simply by not coming on to me.

As I have told you I had confidence for many years. I was not arrogant when coming on to any woman. I just told them how I felt about them and asked them on a date. That is far from being arrogant. Women did not care that I had confidence. This is part of the reason why I am asking for help. I have never read about any solution for my problem. I have read that dating is a numbers game. I have asked out a lot of women and so far there has not been any success.

The words I put in bold is not what I said at all. Please read my opening statement again.

Yes I said I was being judge! However I said I'm judged as if I have not tried, I'm boring and does nothing, and not having confidence(at the time when I'm trying to get someone). I have tried. I do things and is very active. I had confidence and women still did not care. I'm not being judged by facts! I'm being judged by assumptions and not who I am nor the situation.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You're being judged because instead of listening, you're arguing.
We have all read your posts. We have all read your replies. I'm sure we also have all reached the same conclusions.

Please review everyone's replies and find the common theme.

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Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

You're being judged because instead of listening, you're arguing.
We have all read your posts. We have all read your replies. I'm sure we also have all reached the same conclusions.

Please review everyone's replies and find the common theme.

Yes I have found a common theme. No one has looked at my situation. Instead they are making assumptions. I am not arguing I'm defending myself. Everything I have said is being twisted and turn. Such as you lied that I posted this.

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Didn't say you weren't trying. Said you were going about it in the wrong way and asking out the wrong women for the wrong reasons.

As I said my situation is not being looked at. Instead members have looked at each others' assumptions about me. You have made up so much stuff about me. You lied that I'm arrogant with out any proof. How is telling someone how you feel about them and asking out on a date being arrogant? It is not.

As I said I am not arguing. I'm defending myself from these false claims about me. I am not being judged by the facts I have provided! I'm being judged by false claims and assumptions!

Can someone please look at my issue in a truthful manner and not make assumptions about me? I have no reason to lie about the situation. I have said, that I have looked for answers to my problem but I have yet to find one. I read dating articles and never found the answers I seek.

[bayonet777]

answer is buddy im just gonna come out and say it you are full of yourself you are only thinking i want it this way and thats how it has to be

[nuttychick]

RATED-RKOFRANKLIN ... You told us your preference on what sort of woman you would want....

These woman you approach and ask out are they "Real Hotties"?

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Originally Posted by nuttychick

RATED-RKOFRANKLIN ... You told us your preference on what sort of woman you would want....

These woman you approach and ask out are they "Real Hotties"?

Well some of my friends thought they were hot and others did not. So I would say at least average in most cases.

Originally Posted by bayonet777

answer is buddy im just gonna come out and say it you are full of yourself you are only thinking i want it this way and thats how it has to be

I'm not being full of myself. How am I trying to be "I want it this way and that is how it has to be"? I'm just saying for members to please judge this by the facts and not assumptions. If people would read my first post carefully and not make assumptions than maybe I would have the answer I seek.

[nuttychick]

What do you mean by CLEAN?