What can i do to make my GF more relaxed?

[madmike]

We have been together for a year and a half, and during sex she has to cover up with the quilt, she dont like me playing with her boobs or bum.
what can i do to make her more relaxed and cumffy?
Thanks

[Brandye]

Not much. She clearly has many years of "sex (and the body) are unclean" conditioning. Sex therapists can help. Boyfriends are not usually too successful in assisting a change.

[dancingdoc2]

And, this boils down to how she feels about her body as well as any timidness about having someone else see her. These are very powerful emotions and beliefs that can take some time to work through.

It must be extremely difficult for her to know that couples do make love in the nude and sometimes in broad daylight yet being so conflicted about these other issues that she is locked into not being able to fully enjoy herself and her relationship with you.

You can take it upon yourself to locate a marriage and family counselor or psychologist who has experience with this and then ask her to make an appointment. Do not be disappointed if she balks at the idea. She may understand the need yet be in so much turmoil about the matter that she cannot bring herself to solve the problem. In time she may. In many ways her progress is not unlike the old adage about being able to lead a horse to water yet not being able to make him drink. Do not push her. Open the door, give her the information, and sit back for a month or so and see what she does with it.

How much time are you willing to give her? While maturity can play a part in this, it is mostly what Brandye says it is.

Will she let you look at her at all? What about taking the covers off in total darkness? Regardless, when you run your hands over her body, give her plenty of compliments and let her know how you enjoy touching her as well as how beautiful she is. In time she may actually begin to believe you.

Do you take showers together? If not, what about suggesting this--even if it is in total darkness. If you have some success, then move on to a night light for some illumination. These are just ideas I'm tossing out to you.