prom girl

[duh477]

this girl that i work with and I dont really like, but would have sex with has liked me for about 2 years. Shes just immature and wants me to be her bf shes 18 and im 21 and i just think im too old for her. She had a guy she was gona go with and was happy about it but he said he wanted to go with his old gf and if he went with her it would mess it up. Her prom is only a few days away. I feel bad for her and have thought about saying I would go with her but dont think its appropriate because i think im to old for that and just think it would be weird being around all those kids younger than me. What should I do?

[dancingdoc2]

I agree with your gut feeling. You are too old for her, particularly for this event.

If you were nineteen, then I'd say be a nice guy and escort her. It is nice that you would consider being her escort for the evening. Kudos for being gallant.

[Rouge]

On that note, if you don't really like her, don't have sex with her. Normally I wouldn't care, but she may do it for the sole purpose of making you her bf, which isn't fair to her as it wouldn't happen.

[Bote]

Originally Posted by duh477

this girl that i work with and I dont really like, but would have sex with has liked me for about 2 years. Shes just immature and wants me to be her bf shes 18 and im 21 and i just think im too old for her. She had a guy she was gona go with and was happy about it but he said he wanted to go with his old gf and if he went with her it would mess it up. Her prom is only a few days away. I feel bad for her and have thought about saying I would go with her but dont think its appropriate because i think im to old for that and just think it would be weird being around all those kids younger than me. What should I do?

You may have good reasons for not going with her, but I wouldn't let age factor in. If she is immature, that is altogether another thing. One day you will look at a 3 year age difference as silly. I am more than twice the age of my gf. As long as she is old enough, don't let age be an issue.

[GaryRed]

I don't think you're too old. I think you should take her and try and get into her knickers...

[Rouge]

Originally Posted by GaryRed

I don't think you're too old. I think you should take her and try and get into her knickers...

#1 Reason not to ask for advice on the internet.

[dancingdoc2]

Gary, do you really believe this or are you just spouting off? Cute, though your comment is, it really is not a great recommendation.

The teen years are a decade long. It takes this long to mature physically, emotionally, and, intellectually. These two people are at different stages of life and at their ages there is quite a gap. Five years from now, this would not be a factor.

[demonbuttercup]

I agree... it would be an easy way to get to in bed w/ her... but then it wouldn't be fair to her. Sounds like if she's immature.. she'd be the type to equate sex = love (b/f) and then you won't ever get rid of her lol.

[Rouge]

I'm currently in a relationship with a 3 year age gap. It takes a lot of maturity to be able to understand the other person. He's in the workforce, I'm in post-secondary. Sometimes it can create friction.

ONLY if the two are willing to work at, and if she's above the designated level of maturity for an 18 year old (or you aren't as mature as a 21 year old) will it turn out well. As well, I'm not sure she's mature enough to handle the situation if she can't recognize the lack of feelings.

[Bote]

Too much is made about age difference. You have to look a maturity levels. The first girl I dated was 19; I was 16. I was the more mature one. Age was never an issue. My current gf was 19 when we first started dating. I am 30 years older. Again, no problem. Three years is nothing, even at that age. If she is mature and emotionally stable enough, I don't see a problem. Take her, if it's not too late. It will make her day.