Back in the game after 20 years...HELP!?!

[EvilEvilKitten]

That is EXCELLENT news!! Congrats!!

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

This is really good! You are truly bless! Now your dating opportunities have open back up.

[daubsnu1]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

That is EXCELLENT news!! Congrats!!

Monday was our 18th anniversary...what a bummer / downer of a day. Tuesday it's like I was given a new lease on life! Wonderful!!!

[38866]

The herpes scare was probably a good thing, now you will be ever-vigalent with condoms I'm divorced too but I was only married for 6 years and I still think it is scary to date again.

Sex hasn't changed drastically from what you remember, you will be fine. Just enjoy dating. Be smart about it, and it sounds like you will be. Most women want far more than good sex so worry about that more. You'll get your confidence back in the bedroom once you've had some practice.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Most men think they're fine in the bedroom - but, not so my dears! You would be surprised.
Fortunately, most men take direction rather well esp if given using positive feedback.

daub - you're doing everything right so far in your preparation. The STD check, etc. - Very wise.
The next step is to learn the tricks to watch out for in the 'older' women.
Keep your goals in mind - then plan your hunt and hunt your plan.

[daubsnu1]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

daub - you're doing everything right so far in your preparation. The STD check, etc. - Very wise.

Thanks Evil.

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

The next step is to learn the tricks to watch out for in the 'older' women.
Keep your goals in mind - then plan your hunt and hunt your plan.

Oh, you are starting to scare me...

Tricks? Do tell? Educate me...help me understand...

[EvilEvilKitten]

The "Wounded Bird" is a favorite - played by women who NEED you to play Sir Galahad and fix all of their wounds and ills. Constant need to have you re-validate their connection to you.


The "Princess/Good Girl" runs second in popularity - they want you to prove your worth before they'll even say hello to you, let alone anything else. Like being married before you are. Very high maintenance.


Finally, we have the "Hidden Psycho" - who pretends to be all the wild and wicked fun in the world - but really is completely psycho witout sense or balance or 'brakes'. Could be a stalker.

And any woman who is still a virgin at 40 - is simply too much work/has too many issues to be worth your time.

[daubsnu1]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

The "Wounded Bird" is a favorite - played by women who NEED you to play Sir Galahad and fix all of their wounds and ills. Constant need to have you re-validate their connection to you.

Was married to the wounded bird for 18 years. Trust me, I ain't going down that road again...EVER!

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

The "Princess/Good Girl" runs second in popularity - they want you to prove your worth before they'll even say hello to you, let alone anything else. Like being married before you are. Very high maintenance.

High maintenance has always been a BAD thing in my world. Nope, ain't going down that road either.

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Finally, we have the "Hidden Psycho" - who pretends to be all the wild and wicked fun in the world - but really is completely psycho witout sense or balance or 'brakes'. Could be a stalker.

Hmmmm, haven't seen this in my world. Stalker doesn't sound fun at all...I'll watch out for that one for sure.

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

And any woman who is still a virgin at 40 - is simply too much work/has too many issues to be worth your time.

Yep, agree completely!

Geeze, what does that leave me to choose from? Can't I just find a well adjusted, low maintenance, salt-of-the-earth woman who isn't self-centered, self-conscious, who understands the importance of openness and honesty and will meet my needs in addtion to letting me meet her needs?

Is that too much to ask for?