Long distance help

[ff/emt2007]

a couple of months ago i met a girl online, we started going out but then i had to move back home. while at home we talked everyday and on the webcam everything was good. but sometimes i got those weird feelings that something was wrong and she told me dont worry about it it ok nothing happend....anyway that was prob 2 months ago. she knows that i wont be able to move back till december and she told me that she wanted to take a break because she cant be held down she is only 18 but that when i come back down we will work it out and see what happens. she still calls me and i call her we still tell each other i love you and are still close not as close but still. recently she said that she was affraid of having a temptation on cheating if i wasnt there and told me that something did happen it was the time i got the feeling she said she was drinking and a guy took her into a room and started touching her tits and she gave him a blow job...i didnt know what to say to her but she said she was drinking and should have stopped it but she doesnt know why she didnt. she went on to say thats shes sorry and hope that i can look passed it...i tolded her that this whole time i have never looked at another girl or anything and i havent i dont like cheaters and she said she doesnt either she told me if i ever cheated on her its over but she did it whether she meant it or not it happend...i told her im disappointed in her and im really trying to look passed it but dont know how long it will take me... since we broke up i bought two plane tickets 1 to go see her on her birthday and onther at a random time that she doesnt know about i really am trying to make this work and i tell her that its not over for me and i still love her...but she said she does too but when she tells me she loves me its after a pause and idk if shes saying it just cause i am or if she really does......plz help me even if its not advice and just a friend to talk plz msg me

[LickMyGamete]

Cut her some slack. She's a living breathing human with emotions and desires having to wait on someone to return so they can try a relationship. The fact that she told you says a lot about her. Don't use it against her. The bottom line is that she's "with you" because you do something for her, if you're just going to second guess her and be suspicious of everything she does..what's the point?

It's cute that you say "I love you" to each other, but you're way off. You're relationship may work out or may end ..BOTH partners have to want it badly..and it's pretty tough to do.

My wife and I met online, and spent a year talking on the phone before we ever met. There were many hurdles to get over, she even dated someone else when it seemed we were going nowhere. I don't know why, but for some reason she just wanted to be with me..truly, I feel bad for how it went down with her ex..

But what I'm getting at , it's not going to work unless you BOTH want it. She may not be willing to, you really need to be having this conversation with her. But stay there as a friend, make her laugh or whatever you do that she enjoys. When my wife was dating this other guy, she literally called me to say she was going to his party one night, but that she would call me later that night. We just really enjoyed spending time with each other, and that's why it worked out.

..and are having our 2 year anniversary this month.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Be advised that unless you two SPECIFICALLY said exclusive - she did NOT cheat. What she does on her own time is her business and hers alone; not yours. Do not think just because you called her "your girlfriend" or said that you "loved her" that the relationship automatically was an exclusive one. You, as a boyfriend, only have those 'rights' she chooses to give you.

You should not be exclusive anyway.

Let me explain - what you basically said to her was "I am insecure!! I cannot compete against other guys!! I need you to hold my hand!!"

Is that the message you really want to send?

My advice is to cool it now and when you move back - pick up the threads of this relationship and see where it goes WITHOUT mentioning anything about this little episode. Past is past.

[ff/emt2007]

OK i really appreciate what you said to me and i never looked at it that way before...i really like the bad person now, but i wanna thank you for putting it into terms i can understand..it really helped me out major

[Steff]

I agree with Evil on the specifics on being exclusive, BUT, if you wanna try to work things out than tell her to get a vibrator or a dildo... Than whenever one of u gets the urge, call or cam the other and get off together. I'd say take it easy till you get back down there though. Just a thought. =]

[ff/emt2007]

now i really like that one

[EvilEvilKitten]

They have vibes that work with the modern phones - so when he calls - buzzz buzzz buzzzz. LOL
Perhaps a gift is in order?