Destined to be alone?!

[Ducy]

Okay,

So heres my issue. I date around, will get to know a girl for a good while, and as soon as I get in a relationship with them (within a week or two) I just want to break up and never speak to them or anything ever again. I dated this girl for a month, we got along great. We were able to talk and it never mattered what we were doing we always had fun together. I finally asked her to be my gf and as soon as she said yes I went from havig fun to being bored and just wanting to be physical. (In all fairness though I always wanted to be physical yet as soon as the relationship "started" thats all I wanted)

I dont even wanna talk to her now, at times I will just ignore her for a few days then text her if I feel like talking.

Same with my last gf we dated for a little bit, became exclusive then within 3 weeks I broke up with her and stopped talking to her.

And I dont seem to actually like anyone. All my feelings of attractioin seem t be physical, and the only emotional feelings I get are random butterflys when I think of my ex (the lesbian one). I dont feel those for anyone else.

Anyone have any ideas or advice as to what my problem is?

[EvilEvilKitten]

The problem is you have not yet matured beyond the "notches on the bedpost" stage. You care right up to the point you get her into bed and then poof - all interest is gone. This is typical of younger males who haven't got a clue. Aren't you a bit too old for that sort of behavior?


How would you feel if a girl did that to you?

[Ducy]

But I'm not even trying to get in their pants. I fight the urges but its like...everytime I start trying to get close to a gilr I seem to just start thinking of my ex And such

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stop it then. Neither past-thinking nor future-thinking does you any good.

[funinthesun]

Please try take a step back from all that's going on in your life and then consider your age and the title of your post.

[TallieFairey]

You say you keep thinking of your Ex? So maybe, subconciously, your trying to find someone who will replace her. Maybe you just need a break from all relationships/dating and take a breather, that way you might be able to figure out what it is you want.
Im kind of am the same, I like someone & as soon as i get with them I lose interest, but I still remain friends. Or, if someone likes me & then they stop, thats when I like them. It's like i like the chase & what I can/shouldn't have.
It could just be you want to get with girls to get an ego boost & see how many you can pull?
So I would probably step back from dating for a bit to find out what it is you want.

[CegMister]

I know what you mean, for me at least I think I just want to challenge myself to see if I can get them to be my gf.