why would she ask me???

[duh477]

This girl I work with and went out with twice to pro baseball game then came over and watched a movie. She was cool and I liked her and I asked her if she wanted to go out again and she said she did and she had fun with me. So I asked her a few more times and she always said she was busy or something so after a while I just stopped asking her.

The problem was yesterday she asked me to get her tickets so her and a guy could go to a baseball game and she could surprise him because it was his birthday. She said she didnt have a debit or credit card so she couldnt do it herself. But why would she ask me to do that couldnt she ask her parents or some other friends? Maybe im wrong but it seems a bit hurtful for me that she would ask me to get her these tickets so her and some guy can go when she knows that I liked her? I know I wouldnt ask a girl that I previously went out with to get me something so I could go somewhere with another girl. Am I wrong? Why would she ask me to do this for her?

[Ephemera]

Don't lend her any money.

You don't know her well enough. Plus, the whole "I want to surprise another guy I'm going with," doesn't sound right.

[nuttychick]

me thinks she thinks of you as a friend...

have you told her how you feel about her?
if you have
then she is using you... if thats the case tell her to rack off

[duh477]

well she is going to pay me back she just wants me to buy them over the internet and she will give me the money. I just dont know why she would ask me because I went out with her and she said she wanted to go out more she was just too busy, so i just stopped trying. We hadnt really hung out in 6 months just at work. But she knew I liked her so I dont know why she would ask me when she knew that I liked her. I wouldnt do that to a girl I liked. I am gona get them for her because I work with her and dont want her to think it bothers me. I just dont know why she would ask me

[LickMyGamete]

You're going to do it? WHY? It opens up the possibility for so many problems, and it's incredibly inconsiderate of her to even ask you,..what makes this seem like a good idea to you?

Men aren't afraid to say "NO" sometimes. And sometimes it's just smart..do you even wonder why she's coming to you, and not the people in her life who are more familiar with her and her history? Maybe she's done it to them before and never paid them back?

Unless she's handing you the money right away, it's an incredibly dumb idea. sorry.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Hey - NO, don't do this. Sorry, but she doesn't regard you as a friend, ex, or anything other than a "useful tool". Easiest thing in the world to open a bank account and get a debit card with it. Fill out form, insert cash, and ta dah! So unless her legs are broken or something - forget this and forget her.


BTW "too busy" is femme-speak for *yawn* maybe if he's the last man on earth and I really need sex.

Hell, I'm a dominatrix and I treat my men better than this!

[LiL_TrUbLe]

Her not having a credit card? I am sure her parents or some one close to her has one she can use. Boy she is not to busy sorry but she is just using you. Even if she is handing you the money right away to pay I would not do it.

You took her out and now she wants you to help her so she can take some guy out? Sounds like this girl is only around when she wants or needs something. Sounds like what my friends call a gold digger.

My vote is on DON’T DO IT. Look for a girl that is going to show more respect then that, some one who will go out with you and not ask for your help to be with some one else.

[bayonet777]

shes using you bro i had a girl like this once she kept asking for more and more until i finally said enough

[duh477]

i have moved on and hang out with other girls its just the fact that I work with her, and she knew a few months ago that i just stopped trying to go out with her. I already got them for her and im sure she will give me the money. I dont know if I should tell her that I was uncomfortable doing this because I still have to see her on a regular basis should I tell her when I give her the tickets?

[LickMyGamete]

Are you kidding me? You REALLY need to man up. Who cares if you work with her, there's no coworker code that stops one from screwing over another.

We don't care that you moved on, that has nothing to do with it. Telling her you were uncomfortable doing it does nothing either.

It's the fact that out of ALL the people in her life, out of getting them herself, she came to the guy whose on the far sidelines of her life, who she doesn't really have any connection with. THAT is what we're concerned with. That she would pass over many many many other sources just to get to you,,to lend her money. WHY?