how do you know...

[rlgates]

how do you know when to call it quits? In a few weeks it will be one year sence my last, so called, real relationship ended, after I was dumbed by email. As of today.. I have tryed every dating site, bar, church group and as of last week, Shrink I could find and talk to....

I have been jurked around on, lied to and used by 15 girls in less then 11 months now. They ONLY thing I am told is, keep trying............. HOW IN GODS NAME SHOULD I????????????? I am sick of trying, sick of being alone, sick of being looked down on and treating like dogcrap...and sick of living....

SO, how do you keep going...cause I have lost the will to.......

[Brandye]

It sounds like you have sought some counseling help. Given the nature of the several threads you have begun in the last couple years, I think that is a healthy thing to do.

I also think that is where you should deal with this question. Next appointment, take printed out copies of the threads you have begun here. Should start an interesting session.

[rlgates]

done that, was told to "Keep trying and oen day, I will find the person for me" I told him to cram his bill and go to hell.. Other then that, he gave no help.. offered me a "happy pill" Said it would help me forget it better. Forget that I come home to a empty house and have noone to be with? SHIT

[leeishere]

It's never time to call it quits!

A couple of years back I was in a similarish situation. Late 20's, and not many girls were interested in me. Those that were just wanted a shoulder to cry on, a one night stand and for one exceptionally horrid girl a mobile wallet! I was feeling pretty sick of it (and sorry for myself).

Eventually I decided that things needed to change, and made a really hard decision to quit my job and take some time off to travel the world. Although it was really hard being out of my comfort zone at first, I met a lot of different people from different places with different cultures which really opened up my world view.

Although I didn't form any long term relationships whilst traveling, when I arrived back people whom previously rejected me were suddenly chatty and friendly. I came to realize that although I was the same person inside, outwardly a lot of things about myself had changed. I was fitter and thus better looking, I was more confident and extroverted, I had a whole lot of fun (and exotic) experiences to talk about and my body language made me appear far more open and friendly.

Of course, I found most of those chatty women were not for me, but at least I was in the driving seat! Eventually I found someone whom sparked, and we have been in a relationship for about 10 months now.

If you really have tried everything 'normal' then perhaps it is time for a similar life-changing event on your end. My own was frightening before it started and then hell for the first few months as I adjusted, but looking back, it was the best decision I ever made.

I know that with the economy being rubbish, perhaps now is not the best time to quit a stable job to go traveling as I did, but perhaps there is an option to transfer to another branch, similar job in another state or something similar.

Hope this helps...

[rlgates]

well, I got laid off 5 months ago, and there are no jobs here to be had. I also cant realy move any were new do to lack of money and work exp. I have run into the same women.

Needing someone to pay the world for them
Needing someone to play daddy for there 3+ basterd kids
Treat them to dinner and then tell you to hit the road
Talk to you and lie till they find somone better
Make you jump and move like a "show Pony" till they are done with you
Use you to make there own EX upset that they found somone and get back wtih them

you name it.

I know what I want. There is no questioning that. It is the so call open minding women in the world that are nothing more then a bunch of stuckup, selfcentered, smartass, lieing, worthless, heartless Bi*ches.. 15 women in 11 months, added to the ones over the last 10 years makes 60+ that prove that almost all women are crap.

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by rlgates

There is no questioning that. It is the so call open minding women in the world that are nothing more then a bunch of stuckup, selfcentered, smartass, lieing, worthless, heartless Bi*ches.. 15 women in 11 months, added to the ones over the last 10 years makes 60+ that prove that almost all women are crap.

Wow what a statement... As a woman I feel insulted.

Have you traveled the world ? before coming to this conclusion...

[Brandye]

Do not feel too insulted, nuttychick. This guy has a history (see all threads started by him) of asking a question and then rejecting every answer or suggestion. You have dated a dozen of him without even considering a second date. Reverse the genders and he is describing an equally bad date in himself. I cannot believe that the 60 women he claims were all wrong!

He can get it together. Will he?

[rlgates]

Brandye, you can say what you want. Till you have walked in somone else shoes, dont say what is what.

Try looking at it from this side of the window,

If you had been lied to, used, messed with, played and all of the above by every guy you have met in the last few years, would you not have the same thing to say about men?

[leeishere]

Originally Posted by rlgates

well, I got laid off 5 months ago, and there are no jobs here to be had. I also cant realy move any were new do to lack of money and work exp. I have run into the same women...

/snip

...added to the ones over the last 10 years makes 60+ that prove that almost all women are crap.

It looks like for whatever reason you are not meeting the type of women you want. I know you don't want, and don't feel the need to change, but based on what you said above, you are not going to find who you want if you don't!

I know finding jobs in this environment is hard, so travelling is a no-go for now. How about getting involved in working for local (unpaid) volantary groups? swapping around the places you visit regularly, and the people you associate with? I guess the military is an option for a fresh start also ? (although not one I would personally take).

It seems to me you need to change something, but what and how is something you need to decide.

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Do not feel too insulted, nuttychick. This guy has a history (see all threads started by him) of asking a question and then rejecting every answer or suggestion. You have dated a dozen of him without even considering a second date. Reverse the genders and he is describing an equally bad date in himself. I cannot believe that the 60 women he claims were all wrong!

He can get it together. Will he?

Brandye you are so right.. after wading through the contents of the
threads I now laugh instead of feeling insulted


And the way he describes woman , makes me think the Woman
population of the "World" would be better off without him in their lives.....