i got a question

[doinmybest]

ok so i have been dating this girl for a few months, and she is always busy cause she goes to school during the week and works on the weekends. She feels that she cant maintain a romantic relationship under these conditions. she has been really stressed out that last few weeks because her father just passed away, her mother is turning to drinking cause of this, and she is moving right now also. i have been there for her as best as possible but because of work and school we only spend two or three nights out of the week together. i feel that we could work through this but i dont wanna press the matter on her. i am completely head over heals for her and she is the same way about me but she doesnt want the relationship to fall apart and for her to get hurt. i am willing to do what i can to work through the rough spots as to keep her but i dont know how to address the situation, and if i did i wouldnt know what to say. can anyone help me please?

[dancingdoc2]

My recommendation is to continue to be her friend, and to be there as needed. When her life calms down she will continue to need a (best) friend. If romance is to be in your future, she will need a best friend, so, looking at it this way, you haven't really lost any ground. In fact, what you have done during this time is to prepare a great foundation for the future.

Two--three times a week is not bad. It is better than being in a relationship with-
* a traveling salesman
* a long-haul truck driver
* a military man away from home

Take what you can get for now, continue to support her and be her rock--and, most of all, do not have a negative attitude or one that gives her the impression that you are so disappointed that things are as they are and that you can't have more time together.

[EvilEvilKitten]

One thing you must NOT do is be a shoulder for her to cry on. Listen, yes. Commiserate, maybe - only if it is her problem. Her mother's drinking is not her problem so don't commiserate with her over that. But do not ever let her get away with soaking your shirt. "Much as I adore you, I'm not here for a bath." Sit there with a box of tissues and just keep handing two to her as long as she keeps it up. You can say, "Well, this is fun." or "Your mascara's around your neck." with a grin, mind you.Right now, she's twisted tight around an emotional axel - your job is help untwist by NOT being emotional.

Sometimes the gods are too damn generous - like the time they gave me preliminary diagnosi of cancer, heart diease, and something else, I can't remember what now.

It is better to shake yoor fist in rage at the gods than to soak a man's shirt.

[Rouge]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

* a military man away from home

Although, they come back horny as hell and dedicated as ever