its absolutly immpossible for me to get a bf!

[The_Sexy_One]

right, first of all i get bullied by nearly evry1 in school (in year 7 i liked dinosaurs(ikno what a noob) but i dont anymore, and evry1 who walkes past me calls me dinogirlits been 2 years for gods sake!!!!) now most of the boys in town know that, ther has only been one man who has evr been nice to me and that was a paedo i met on habbo, then again on msn.

im begining to thing ill only get a bf when i move as far away as possible

im so deppresed, and its knocked my confidence, very badly. help

[dlb]

This is not the end of the world. You will meet someone who you can enjoy being with. I know all about feeling that you don't appeal to people at your school or thinking that they don't like you. I went on one date with someone from my same high school! I found girls from the other schools around the county or from other cities even much more attractive in general and more likely to want to go out with me.

It may be that there are guys who want to go out with you, but being immature do not know how to tell you. Teasing is often a way of showing attraction, although it never seems flattering to the one on the receiving end.

If you like someone it might be good for you to make the first move. Guys like that most of the time, unless they are completely insecure and you don't want one of those. Also expand your horizons. Don't limit yourself to the relatively small pool of candidates at your school.

Most of all, don't worry. You will meet someone one day.

[Breedlove]

first of all your swarmed with immature BOYS! you want a man and that means you need to broaden your search. Such as out of school. Try and date more than one guy if your looking for a bf non-exclusive an such. Also try and have it to where the mAn takes intiative you shouldn't have to ask him out it's the other way around. If you have ask him then he's not worthy for you because he's a coward and I'm sure you don't want a coward for a bf. Also a lot of haveing a bf is what kinda guy your looking for if you could kind olenougu to share this information then maybe I can be of more assitance.

[Breedlove]

sorry I meant if you be kind enough to share this information. My mistake

[dancingdoc2]

OH, do I remember.....

I grew up in a small town at the heart of California's Mother Lode gold country. It had one elementary school or so I thought for many years. Upon entering high school and meeting kids bussed in from all over the western county from outlying schools, I learned the town did have a parochial school! I was flabbergasted! With few exceptions I attended all grades plus kindergarten with the same few dozen kids. The sidewalks rolled up at night, there was a curfew, and not much to do for activities.

It is a fact of life that teen girls tend to be snippy and vindictive and petty and jealous and superior and gossipy and teasing and vengeful and two-faced for a time. This is also about the time that they suffer body image and self confidence issue. What better way to make "me" feel better than to smite someone else. Thank goodness this is only a phase, albeit a bad one.

> that was a paedo i met on habbo, then again on msn

Please explain this to someone out of touch with the latest jargon.

> most of the boys in town know that

My suggestion is not to let this bother you. If you let it bother you, it will rub off and kids will continue to needle you. If you do not react to comments about the subject, or, better yet, if you let your personality show forth, kids will loose interest in needling you because you do not react, and, because you are becoming an interesting person to be around and to listen to. This might take some time, and, it is also dependent upon when those around you begin maturing and growing up. So, much depends upon them as you have noted.

I doubt you will have to wait for graduation and a move out of town. Give this a year or two and when boys begin showing an interest in girls and wanting to date, they will notice you and many others. If you exhibit a nice personality it will be noticed. I understand that these can be tough times, however, just hang in there. We all have gone through this. Saying so does not make this easier and is one of the reasons the teen years can be so difficult.

[The_Sexy_One]

Originally Posted by Breedlove

first of all your swarmed with immature BOYS! you want a man and that means you need to broaden your search. Such as out of school. Try and date more than one guy if your looking for a bf non-exclusive an such. Also try and have it to where the mAn takes intiative you shouldn't have to ask him out it's the other way around. If you have ask him then he's not worthy for you because he's a coward and I'm sure you don't want a coward for a bf. Also a lot of haveing a bf is what kinda guy your looking for if you could kind olenougu to share this information then maybe I can be of more assitance.

i guese im looking for som1 funny, kind, doesnt force me into things and isnt fixated on "kinky stuff" if you get what i mean.

[demonbuttercup]

Well according to your other post, you are 13... so its quite normal to like dinosaurs at age 11... I am positive MOST of the boys liked dinos at age 11... heck Im 30 and I just recently bought a shirt w/ a dinosaur and I have dino Vans shoes. lol :P

[The_Sexy_One]

Originally Posted by demonbuttercup

Well according to your other post, you are 13... so its quite normal to like dinosaurs at age 11... I am positive MOST of the boys liked dinos at age 11... heck Im 30 and I just recently bought a shirt w/ a dinosaur and I have dino Vans shoes. lol :P

yh but im a girl

[Breedlove]

and have you found anyone like this. If so then hopefully your showing some affection towards him if you have found anyone yet. Well patience is a virtue and make yourself open as in let people know your intrested in dating friends and family an such this can help broaden your search for a man you want. Now you say kinky stuff so I'm assuming you still want the relationship to be sexualy invovled but nothing more than that right? Correct me if I'm wrong and if this is so and he's taking intiative in wanting to take that relationship to that level make sure you tell him what you will allow and if he's pushing you to do something well I'm afraid he's there for your body not your soul and undying love. Hopefully that clears some things up feel free to ask anymore questions

[Breedlove]

nothing wrong with liking dinosaurs just because your a girl l. Whoever told you this is immature you be who you are. self control don't let others control you by saying standards for them live by your standards and more than surely you will meet an understanding male that sees this. By the way your very young you have lots of time to find a bf. Heck I'm 16 and I lve just recently started dating my first girlfriend and things are going great. Boys are very immature at this age due to puberty don't know how to react to the feelings of the opposite sex give the boys around some time to grow up your mentaly way ahaead of your game and that's good of a bad thing. Just remeber your only 13 boys are boys at this age this is why people should wait to worry about finding a bf till possibley college or late in there highschool years when they understand what a real relationship is