What do I bet on?

[xDsTx]

So, my girlfriend and I have been dating for a good 2 weeks now and we're both 17, and sex is way too early for both of us and out of the question. We recently watched a movie together, watchmen, 3 hour long movie or so, we had the whole back row to ourselves, and there were only 6-8 other people in the theatre up front.

We started making out and we lied down on the seats and she was on top and i was on top and what not, i then started dry humping her and she seemed to enjoy it because she was somewhat moaning. anyways whenever i tried to move her hand down to my hardon she would always pull away and that really bothered me. i had access to her breast but not the pants area.

Anyways we always have these little bets where if the other person loses they have to do something for the other, and I've ran out of ideas, at first it was just like kiss, then french kiss, now i don't know, should i be betting for a handjob? or is that too soon. help!

[CleverName]

Originally Posted by xDsTx

anyways whenever i tried to move her hand down to my hardon she would always pull away and that really bothered me.

That means no. No means.. no. Get it?
Maybe she is not comfortable doing that in a public area?

Originally Posted by xDsTx

Anyways we always have these little bets where if the other person loses they have to do something for the other, and I've ran out of ideas, at first it was just like kiss, then french kiss, now i don't know, should i be betting for a handjob? or is that too soon. help!

If the only way you progress your physical relationship is bets, than yes, it is too soon. I can see how you think its cute and all, but sex is an adult activity, and you should act maturely when it comes to trying new things for the first time.

[xDsTx]

Alright, thanks, yea I know I should act more maturely its just my stupid hormones...bleh. Anyways thanks yea, I'll be sure not to rush things and make sure shes okay with it.

[CleverName]

Trust me, I know how you feel. I am only 18 myself, I just had a very healthy relationship with my first.

Don't get me wrong, that betting stuff is a fun way to mess around, but just maybe not a good way of introducing something new into your sex life.

[dancingdoc2]

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How soon for this or that? I'd say you are moving way too fast. Take a few months to get to know each other. Learn how to make out and neck, pet, all before getting to foreplay. In four or five more months, maybe you'll be ready for a hand job, and/or oral. The worst thing you can do is rush to the finish line, so, do not listen to your hormones and listen to reason and common sense.

[tntitans21399]

I think physically she might want to do something but mentally knows she and you aren't ready and that is just a small step. The girl I dated back when I was younger that I did things with sexually with for the first time we slowly worked into doing certain things and never planned out. We eventually had sex but that was about 1 year after we were dating, so don't push her into anything and when the moment is right for her to do something to you then it will happen.

[LilKayla]

All I can say is that when a woman is ready she will let you know. Don't try to push her. You could try to talk to her if the moment is good.