My bf wants a threesom!

[fitzas]

My bf who i've only been with for nearly 2 months is going to have a threesome and its eaither going to be with me or without me. Im really uncomfortable with this whole thing but dont know what to do. We talked about this and he knows how I feel.

I could eaither not do it but I dont like the thought of him being with two other woman, or I could go with it but I have no intrest in doing anything with a woman or seeing him with another women. He would prefer if I was there and has told me that we would never have to see the other women again.

I really dont want to go through with this but I also feel very selfish for feeling this way since I know how much he wants to do this.

What should I do!?

[CleverName]

Your not being selfish, he is for not considering your feelings.

Are you in an exclusive relationship?

[fitzas]

Yes we are in an exclusive relationship, which is why this really upsetting me as I dont know why he would want to be with someone else.

[CleverName]

Leave him, he is not worth your time. IMO

[dancingdoc2]

When it comes right down to it it is not so much what you do as what he will do. If he goes through with his plan then it sounds to me like you will no longer have him as a boyfriend. Make plans right now to move on and find a new person to date who will consider your feelings, first and last.

Also, two months is a bit soon to make any relationship an exclusive one, don't you think, now? Please read what I have to say about dating, why people do it, how people should do it, and why. There is a lot of information on this and more listed in the Index as well as having been discussed on the Forums. Do a search.

I hope this is of help.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Also please remind this oaf you like to call your bf that 3somes aren't ONLY two girls and one guy but also two guys and one girl and how would he feel about NOT being the only guy involved?

Do not go exclusive again - wait until you're afianced to give up your freedom.

[dlb]

Most men have a threesome , or moresome, fantasy. That is not your problem. The problem is that he says he plans to make it reality with or without your presence, participation and consent.

If you are dead set against this you should tell him. He can accept and desist. If not you should look for a new boyfriend. If you have been with him for only two months you should get over him pretty quickly, especially when he is a person who apparently does not take your feelings into consideration.

[fitzas]

Well i've been thinking about my situation a for while and still dont know what to do. He says that this will be the only time and after will never have to see the other woman again. I could eaither go with it but im worried i'll hate myself for it or he could do it without me which i'll prop dump him.

It's prop silly but I do like him and dont want to end it over this

[RexyRay]

Originally Posted by fitzas

My bf who i've only been with for nearly 2 months is going to have a threesome and its eaither going to be with me or without me. Im really uncomfortable with this whole thing but dont know what to do. We talked about this and he knows how I feel.

I could eaither not do it but I dont like the thought of him being with two other woman, or I could go with it but I have no intrest in doing anything with a woman or seeing him with another women. He would prefer if I was there and has told me that we would never have to see the other women again.

I really dont want to go through with this but I also feel very selfish for feeling this way since I know how much he wants to do this.

What should I do!?

Quite Frankly I would dump him, selfish or what ??

[EvilEvilKitten]

OH you DON'T think being selfish and inconsiderate is enough reason to kick a guy with whom you're supposedly having an exclusive relationship to the curb?


You LIKE being shown disrespect?


Girl this is how abuse begins - little things that you don't call him on. Then bit by bit he erodes your self-esteem and isolates you and then bam the first smack - nothing serious - but now he knows you will take anything - anything at all - that he's willing to dish out - because YOU ARE A WUSSY. Look what he's got you doing now. You'll swallow his "ooo I want a 3-some" like he's some spoiled brat and you're in here asking us whine whine whine should I?

Sorry to be rough but someone has to wake you up.