I like my best freind, but I am a punk...

[Yardie Bone]

I have a very attractive best freind who is a girl. I am a guy who is 17, senior in HS as she is too. We have been BF's for the past 2+ years and in the past year I have become very attracted to her. We go to movies and hang out alot, during our time together we will hug, cuddle, and a whole bunch of other flirty things. Last week we started exchanging goodnight txt messages where she would say love, hun, and baby in a few of them, and I would reply the same. My major problem is I do not know if she really likes me because she talks to me about everything such as previous b/f's, and alot of other personal things and I do not know if she just looks at me as just a good/best freind, or wants to be my girlfriend. To make matters more frustrating for me, Prom is in 2 months and I want to ask her to prom, but at the same time, I am afraid of rejection. Please help me ASAP! Thanks you all so much in advance for listening to my lame drama while you all have you other life activities...

[Ephemera]

No pain, no gain. If you don't ask her, you won't know. The worst thing that could happen is that you get rejected and things are a little weird for a bit. But they can always go back to normal.

Judging from the information you've given us, it sounds as if she is interested in you.

However, high school girls are weird. Some times they like having someone they feel comfortable with who they also flirt with. But often they don't actually want to "do" or become something with that person.

Yeah, it doesn't make sense. But that's just my own personal experience.

[Yardie Bone]

How do I go about asking her out? Do I just go uo to her and say, do you want to go out? I know I sound weird, but I have never really asked a girl out before... They usually just told me upfront that they liked me and it went from there...

[dancingdoc2]

Rather than just asking if she wants to go out with no specifics attached, I would find out either from her or one of her friends what her interests are and then ask her out to do that. If you are unable to glean the info, then ask her out for dinner (or lunch) and a movie that she might enjoy. As for movies, select two and ask if she has a preference, or an alternate suggestion. If she gives you an alternate, then take her to see that one.

When it comes to restaurants, ask what types of food she enjoys and then pick one that serves that type of food.

When it comes to selecting a date and time. Ask if she would like to see a matinee or a later movie. If she has no preference, select one that fits in with what else you may have in mind. If she says she is busy at the particular time you suggested, ask if this or that time would be better. If she wants to go with you yet is committed to do something else during the first choice, she should select the second option, although being young and inexperienced, she may not know to do this.

[Dbondjuk]

Regardless if you have known her for years or not, I think that Doc's idea of taking her to the movies is a terrible "first date". I would think that things would either A) Flow naturally or B) Be sort of awkward when you go on that "first date".

I would just ask her out, then to prom. Or even say something like, "Hey have you found anyone to go to prom with yet?" "No? Me either, you want to go together? Maybe get some dinner before hand too or something if you are interested in that."

That is something I would say being myself. But if prom is far away, just ask her out for the hell of it. Just don't go to the movies. Dates are supposed to be social, not quiet. Movies are a thing you do with the girl once you are dating or something in my opinion. You can go out to dinner or lunch, then maybe go to a park and walk around, or just do something that doesn't' cost money but a girl would enjoy. Maybe even some humane society where you can adopt animals that are cute, girls love those.