Should i????

[michelleVA]

My boyfriend of 2 years and i are on a break..
I was thinking about this..
He is going away with a guy friend for 2/3 days and i was wondering.. SHould i send him a sexy picture while he is away to let him see what he is missing..

P.S.he wanted the break!!
Would it hurt??

[demonbuttercup]

Have you sent sexy pics before???
Always know that once you do it.. it's "out there".

I think you shouldn't even acknowledge he's out of town....

[cjb1981]

Yea, Buttercup's right. If you guys are on a break and you send him a pic, he's going to know that he's got you around his figure, plus he's going to show his friend.

[dancingdoc2]

He wants a break? From what, you? The relationship? Which? Why?

Regardless, he does not need to be assaulted by a picture or a phone call or an E-mail. He is well aware of what you look like. Doing this will not make a difference. Doing this will make you appear "needy"; maybe even vindictive.

If you are hurt, better me thinks, to take an inventory of the relationship or as physicians do, an "M & M" (Morbidity & Mortality) fact finding discussion for the cause of a patient's death. This would be more helpful to you.

If your b/f simply wants a vacation then what is so inherently threatening with this? Many couples, including this couple, sometimes go off on separate vacations as well as ones we enjoy together. If this is the case me thinks this is your insecurity showing and this is not a healthy sign or signal to send.

When he and his friend return, then what? Do you know? Please fill in the blanks and help us out. Maybe then we can provide more meaningful suggestions and insight.

[Dbondjuk]

A break? Yeah more info is needed. What I have seen when dealing with "breaks", is that it's basically another word for breaking up. Breaks aren't a good thing in my book. It's either a break up or it isn't, there is no "in between".

Need more infos like Doc said.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Excuse me? He's going away for a few days and you're worried that he may forget you? Are you insane? Does insanity come up frequently in your blood line? Are you pathologically insecure or something?

Get a grip. There is no way he's going to forget you and, in fact, most likely, his buddy is going to be heartily bored with hearing you discussed day in and day out during this trip. It is what guys do. Hunt, drink beer, bitch, moan, complain and all of it doesn't mean a thing.

Don't send him sexy pix, cutesy text messages or anything else.
In fact, the best use of your energy would be to rearrange the furniture, reassess your wardrobe, get yourself to a salon, and just do all the things you'd rather NOT do with him when he's around.

You want him to really miss you - and he cannot do that if every time he picks up his phone there are 564 items from you.

Go out, forget him, and go have some fun on your vacation!

[dancingdoc2]

Oh! do I agree with your strategy, EEK; however, I'm not yet certain whether he is on vacation or in the process of breaking up. Hmmmm, Michelle, you posed the question now please help fill in the blanks, or what's the point of the thread?

[Dbondjuk]

I still stand on my point and view of: "Lets take a break or go on vacation" is another form of saying, " We are breaking up."

:S

Always seems that way to me. At least from what I have seen.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Maybe and maybe not - but really - the point is IMMATERIAL because the correct way to handle this is to do NOTHING. Absolutely nothing at all! Whichever it is; 'a break' or a prelude to 'breaking up'.

If it is a prelude to breaking-up then:
Let him come to you. Let him tell you what's on his mind.
Then you say "Let me think about this." and you take your time thinking about it. Several days at least. Then you give him your decision - in person. Whatever you decide - stick to it.

If it is just a break:
Let him come to you. Let him tell you what's on his mind.
You can welcome him back if you decide to keep him.

See? The answer is the same. Problem solved.

Any questions?