I just don't know.

[Mr. Saint]

I have fallen for a friend of mine, or at least think I have. I originally met her through her boy friend who is also a good friend of mine. Up until very recently we where both just friends and that was how I thought of her. But a few days ago we where in the car and she held my hand, not really weird for her. During the ten minutes we where holding hands, although it sounds completely cliché, I felt something for her. As the days progressed I realized that I really have strong feelings for her. The next day she broke up with my friend, her boy friend. Now I don’t know what to do. The interesting thing is, when I was talking to her boy friend about it, he told me, with out me asking, that I could date her because I was a good guy and he thinks I would be better then just some asshole that would mistreat her. Anyways, my question is how long should wait before I do anything about it and how should I go about it? Also any advice would be much appreciated.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I'd let her make the first move. You can show you're interested but no 'birddogging' and no making passes at her. Let her do the stepping up.

[dancingdoc2]

Yup! and while people in your age range can and do often have strong emotions about relationships, they are generally not as complex as can be with older individuals or any couple who has been involved for a very long time. So, while it may take a year or so to get over a previous relationship, this is not necessarily the case with teens. Regardless, I'd give her some space and some time to sort her emotions and become "grounded", again. How long does the process take? As long as it takes.

Continue being friends, let her know that you would like to continue being friends with her and wouldn't mind doing things together and if agreed, just keep things casual for awhile. Let the dating and the deeper involvement evolve over time.

[Mr. Saint]

Alright I will let her make the first move but make it obvious that I am interested. As always, Thanks for your help EEK and Doc.