Need some help!!!

[Momojones]

Okay, so I have this girl. And we have been talking for a little over a month, maybe even a month and a half. Anyways, so I have totally fallen for her, like off the hook. And I really wanted to keep all the sexual stuff till we are actually dating. But about 2 nights ago we ended up having off the chain phone sex. But we haven't even hung out, out of school and she and I are already talking about having sex. We have flirted and touched in class. Okay so what I wanna know is should I wait to have sex with her until we're dating, or have sex then ask her out??

[dancingdoc2]

Wait four or five months until you really know each other and have established a solid relationship. If all you want is to get your rocks off then that is a different story, assuming she wants to participate.

Because you are interested in dating I presume you want to try and establish a partnership. That being the case, then place sex on the back burner. There is much more to a relationship that playing with each others pieces parts and climaxing--much more. Work on these thing as they are more important. Learn and then understand that men and women enjoy sex, yet we want it for different reasons. Your reasons won't necessarily get you laid at the beginning of the relationship.

I recommend reading all the relationship articles and those discussing making out in all of its various forms. Please look through the Index at the top of the main screen. It is time for both Sex Ed. and relationship knowledge.

[Innocence_100%]

DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HER BEFORE YOU ASK HER OUT! Seriously it'll be a huge mistake. She'll just think you're easy and will only want you for the sex, that I promise you. Ask her out and if all is still going well AT LEAST two or three weeks in then sure have sex. But not before, after you ask her out you can kiss her and finger her etc, and then that'll keep her wanting more but restrain because then after two to three weeks you can have sex and she'll be so happy and will love you for you and not use you as a sex buddy Good Luck

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oh, I don't know that being a "sex buddy" is all THAT bad! But you certainly have NOT fallen in love - you have been bitten by INFATUATION. It is up to you whether you work on sex or a relationship - actually being a "sex buddy" is a kind of relationship - so is FWB - but what you MUST do is to make it clear to her what it is you want.