'pain' during sex

[rosebanks]

When me and my boyfriend have sex, somtimes, if he thrusts quite hard, it kind of makes a dull pain in my abdomen... it only lasts WHILE hes thrusting and no longer, but still, does anyone know what this is?

do any other women experience it?

[Ephemera]

Is he hitting your cervix?

Is it always when he thrusts hard, or only at a certain angle?

You should try to notice these things so that when he starts to do that you can slap his wrist. That way he'll learn.

It shouldn't ever hurt as you describe it, and if it does, then you're not f*cking properly.

[rosebanks]

its usualy during missionary position, he is amazing at what hes doing, believe me! but sometimes in that position it does have a quick dull pain, its not too uncomfortable but still, i know it shouldnt really be happening!

[Ephemera]

Next time, during missionary, experiment with what angle he's thrusting at and see if that's the problem.

Good luck.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Okay, he's thrusting harder than your body is ready for, hitting all the wrong spots within, and your body is protesting what it perceives as mistreatment - being too rough. It happens. How you 'fix' it is by saying:

OUCH! THAT HURTS!

[Orrange]

Or you could casually talk to him about it and bring it up while not having sex so he doesn't have any hard feelings while you're making love and therefore ruin the mood. If it's not so much that it's killing you then, "OUCH! THAT HURTS!" isn't going to help what he thinks he's doing right. I know I would be bitter about that if I've been doing it for so long then all of a sudden it just now started hurting to the point where you'd have to yell it out. It would make me feel like I was living a lie and then I'd be wondering what else you were faking or trying to hide, but that's just me everyone is different.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Having felt it myself - it is a matter of skill. Please - forget your ego. Everyone can have an 'off day'. If it hurts - it hurts - and sex is not supposed to hurt.

[Orrange]

Ego? What Ego? We're talking after the fact here, it's not like she's not known about this for a while and all of a sudden it's happened and it hurts. If that was the case, then she has a right to say no as loud as she wants right there, but isn't it considerate to talk to the person before they do it again?

[EvilEvilKitten]

That would depend upon if it has become a habit and happens nearly all the time or if it were only an occasional thing.

Ego?
"I know I would be bitter about that if I've been doing it for so long then all of a sudden it just now started hurting to the point where you'd have to yell it out."
Why be bitter? Everyone can 'slip' now and again; even you.

"It would make me feel like I was living a lie and then I'd be wondering what else you were faking or trying to hide, but that's just me everyone is different. "

She's not going to divorce him over this, buddy. It's just an opportunity to improve skills. Get some perspective.

[Orrange]

You're right, you win. I just thought I could give my opinion without getting criticized, but since you have me all figured out I guess I'm wrong.