Dream Love?!?!

[newchris101]

ok this one is serious. Also its a little bit strange on my end.

So heres how it is. I like to dream while im asleep. its probably one of the coolest experiences ever because u can make absolutely whatever u want happen. Am i right? Of course that was rhetorical

Anyway occasionally i have sexual dreams. A lot of the time those dreams will include people other than my current partner. So im basically getting my fill of infidelity during my sleepy time.

This is great, however, sometimes when i wake up and i have dreamt about someone i could actually make it happen with i lose essentially all feelings for my partner and start to like a girl that i have dreamt about.

Heres an example. I went on vacation and we stayed in a hotel room. for anyone who doesnt know me i feel that fancy hotel rooms can be extremely romantic for both parties and many will agree. While in the hotel i fell asleep and dreamt of this girl we can call missy. Missy was in my gym class and we were very frisky with each other.

Many times we would playfully beat each other up or yell at each other and then later settle it and smile and continue to have fun. In my dream we were in my hotel room and i had just woken up during the morning and i was getting dressed and she was completely naked in the bed on the other side.

We started kissing and ended up having sex in the dream. it was pretty sweet. it was very romantic sex too not just str8 fucking. Anyway when i woke up i was alone and it was around 7am and my gf texted me telling me she was going to school and i realized that i didnt care about her anymore and that i really liked "Missy"

This has happened before and she has no clue about it. like at least 2 times. but at the end i always end up having feelings for my gf. its just for about a week or so and then we r good.

I dont know what to do bc its our anniversary in a week and i hope i will have feelings back for her by then.

On a sidenote do i explain these things to her, do i keep them to myself, do i break up with her, or is there something that im missing with these dreams?

[odis85]

ex-boyfriends and me?


ummm.... i think you need to figure things out for yourself before you go off doing anything else

[EvilEvilKitten]

Let me get this straight - this dream girl is just and only that, right?

Okay - now then think about this - how would YOU feel if your girlfriend said to you - sorry but I don't love you anymore - I'm trading you in this fnatasy guy about whom I had this crazy wild super romantic dream and oh it was just so good that it made you look like rotten dog meat that's been left out in the sun for two weeks!

Feel good about that, do you?
So why would you expect her to be happy about you telling her that?

Plus - what kind of an IDIOT trades in a real live girlfriend for a fantasy???

[newchris101]

i dont think you really understand. I dont think it would sound good either but i only dream about girls that i could actually make that happen with. im not going to trade her in i just find it weird that i develop feelings for these girls for a few days and then lose feelings for my actual gf. but then lose feelings later for the fantasy and regain feelings for my gf

[EvilEvilKitten]

Infatuations come and go. Love sticks.
What do you want?
The shadow of infatuation or the real deal of love?

It isn't wierd btw, most people who think you can only 'love' one at a time do this sort of thing.