Valentines day

[Newtolove]

Well this is part practical and part well... pondering

What's the purpose of valentines day ?

Does it really aid in showing your feelings for someone or does it just create pressure and open the door to missunderstandings (ie: hm he never did nothing so he can't like me) putting people in a position to think they should make a move when they'd rather not or are unsure what to do.

Or does it indeed help ease things along, lets say apply some "social lube"

OK now I'll bite the bullet: I am part of a social club (rotaract link in my sig) and yes there is a young lady there I have taken a fancy to, to be honest as of a few weeks ago she was the only one available so that made me feel a bit awkward but I do rather like her. As I'm not the best one at knowing what's customery on valentines day and how to use it to my advantage is there anything I should/could do to let her know of my feelings (which I am sure she is aware already having tried to ask her out before) or rather that I would like to make something of them. Of course I could just as her out for a drink or a meal on the 14th (erm I think its the 14th isn't it ? - lol I'm only joking I do know that much) but I'm not a lover of crowded places (mind you with the credit crunch that might not be a problem).

[odis85]

lol well my friends have always called it a hallmark holiday because there is no reason for it (i mean no one did anything special that we are celebrating. at least that any of us know of). but its just a day to show someone that you care for them. its just a day for you to do something special. this is entirely how you see it. typically you try to be extra nice about everything and taking special attention to do the stupid things like open doors and pulling out chairs because its the stupid things that make a big impact.

most people bring some kind of gift like flowers or candy and some do both. but anything that would make the person feel special is great. some women (to my experience) prefer what is typical (flowers, mainly red roses) and others like something hand made because it means you took special time to make it but just about anything you can come up with is something she will apriciate.

[llblovesejw]

Hey hey heyyyyyy. Don't you know your historical legends? Valentine's day is about love, baby.
I'm not sure where it was, but somewhere there was a brave beautiful man who loved love. And in whatever country this man was in, marriage was banned for whatever reason. He would not hear of it! So on this day, he rebelled and married young couples in defiance of the damned government.
And so we remember this day by making reservations at fancy french restaurants and buying flowers on the way home from work, or giving your significant other some new fun stuff in the sack.


Le Fin.

[Newtolove]

erm actually its origins come from the roamans festival of fertility which the church adopted to keep things runni gsmoth and invented a fictotious saint bishop valentine as the reason not that we have any fact on this persoan and there are disputes as to where he is burried

[dlb]

Yes it is true. Saint Valentine was used by the church replace the Roman fertility festival of Lupercalia during which naked young men carrying strips of goat hide in their hands would swarm out of the temple into the streets and whip any and all women who crossed their path with the goat hide strips.

I think that sounds so much more fun than the current Valentine practices which have been promoted by companies like Hallmark.

If you want a date on Valentines and don't have the cash to take someone out among a throng of other valentine diners why not do something more interesting and romantic?
You could prepare a meal for her. It's not difficult, especially with a cookbook and/or all the recipes available online and many women are, for some reason, impressed and turned on even by men who can (will?) cook. You could save money there and gain her esteem. Before or after you could go for a nice walk in the countryside or park. OK I am a romantic.

Valentine's Day is highly over rated for adults I believe. I got married in February and in a recent conversation with my wife it seems we both thought privately about getting married on Feb. 14 and independently came to the same conclusion: too corny for us.

Just as christians should celebrate Christmas and Easter every day of the year, lovers should celebrate their love every day of the year. If you do this February 14th is of little consequence

[EvilEvilKitten]

The 'purpose' is to let humans off the hook of having to hide our lustful natures. This is the day when we're permitted to let it all hang out.

So go and enjoy it!

I certainly will!!!
We're holding a sex party then!

[yngman224]

I dont understand why everyone goes manic on just the one day of the year, wen 364 days ur 2geva, u shud share ur love 4 one another, as u do neway!!! Ok this yr I have smeone I can give cards & presents to, but usually (within my family history) V's day means nothing, so me & gf r staying in watching DVDs, snuggled up & making out b4 bed!!! hows that 4 lust, passion & love??? lol

[EvilEvilKitten]

Why not share his and her English classes as well !!!

Because they spend the rest of the year worrying about work, dealing with the kids, paying taxes, worrying about Mom, Dad, the in-laws, their pets, their house, their car(s), their investments, trips to the dentist, the doctor, and if Little Joey's going to make 1st string in the local soccer league this year, and what are we going to do about Beatrice's awful boyfriend? Add in the housework, the grocery shopping, the yardwork, and whatever esle life is throwing your way - romance takes a lower if not the lowest priority.

That's why Valentine's Day is important.
To give you a clear day to face up and 'fess up to your love and your desires.
To remember why you're with him/her in the first place.

[Newtolove]

Originally Posted by yngman224

I dont understand why everyone goes manic on just the one day of the year, wen 364 days ur 2geva, u shud share ur love 4 one another, as u do neway!!! Ok this yr I have smeone I can give cards & presents to, but usually (within my family history) V's day means nothing, so me & gf r staying in watching DVDs, snuggled up & making out b4 bed!!! hows that 4 lust, passion & love??? lol

A philosopher thats speaks in sms language how charming. Dear sir as we are not all versed in this language of the elete please refrane from using it, we common mortals are not too used to it plain english however is very understandable to our untrained ears

[yngman224]

Originally Posted by yngman224

I dont understand why everyone goes manic on just the one day of the year, wen 364 days ur 2geva, u shud share ur love 4 one another, as u do neway!!! Ok this yr I have smeone I can give cards & presents to, but usually (within my family history) V's day means nothing, so me & gf r staying in watching DVDs, snuggled up & making out b4 bed!!! hows that 4 lust, passion & love??? lol

once again in simple English then.......
I dont understand why everyone goes manic on just the one day of the year, when 364 days you're together, you should share your love for one another, as you do anyway!!! Ok this year I have someone I can give cards & presents to, but usually (within my family history) Valentine's day means nothing, so me & my gf are staying in, watching DVDs, snuggled up & making out before bed!!! hows that for lust, passion & love??? lol

hope thats better!!!