On Holding Hands...

[101sa]

Hey Im a 20 year old male.

From what Ive heard its good to make some light physical contact to break the "touch barrier" before kissing, etc. I think holding hands is a good idea, but Im not sure when is a good time to hold a girls hand on a date.

I have a few things I am wondering about:

1) Is it ok to hold a girls hand on the first date?
2) Do all girls even want you to make light physical contact before kissing?
3) If I try to hold a girls hand and she doesnt want to, is this going to turn her off?
4) When should I even hold her hand?

As you can see I over analyze things alot and it really drives me crazy sometimes. I would really appreciate any educated answers. Thank you.

[dlb]

Originally Posted by 101sa

Hey Im a 20 year old male.

From what Ive heard its good to make some light physical contact to break the "touch barrier" before kissing, etc. I think holding hands is a good idea, but Im not sure when is a good time to hold a girls hand on a date.

I have a few things I am wondering about:

1) Is it ok to hold a girls hand on the first date?
2) Do all girls even want you to make light physical contact before kissing?
3) If I try to hold a girls hand and she doesnt want to, is this going to turn her off?
4) When should I even hold her hand?

As you can see I over analyze things alot and it really drives me crazy sometimes. I would really appreciate any educated answers. Thank you.

1) yes it's OK
2) never thought of that but yes usually a handhold, embrace, stroke of the cheek or similar previous display of affection precedes a kiss even after 20 years of marriage.
3) Probably not. If she violently rejects an opportunity to hold hands it might mean that she is not interested in you physically.
4) Offer your hand to help her get in or out of the car, sitting in the theater, walking side by side after you have had enough chit chat to feel comfy with each other. Offer your hand to help her walk over a patch of icy sidewalk,if you are holding onto something steady that is; don't want to slip and drag her down with you...then again I had a great experience with that once Dancing is a great way to make hand contact and light body contact.

It's really quite easy once you get past mental barriers and even people who might not want to have sex with you anytime soon will usually allow you to hold hands if they like you at all.

[dancingdoc2]

Please read the how-to articles listed in the Index, found at the top of the main screen.

1. If a girl is interested in being kissed, her body language will make it plain and clear. Do not attempt to kiss her unless and until she shows she is interested. This is discussed in one of the articles listed in the Index.
2. You can extend and offer your hand for her to take. If interested she will, if she is not, then just continue with what you are doing and try again some day in the future.

Usually a girl will send signals of what is appropriate and when. In the meantime, just be pleasant, polite, and listen as she chats.

After reading some of the articles, please feel free to ask any questions that you have.

[odis85]

when i want to kiss a girl i have a checklist that i more or less go through to test the waters so to speak..

1. she laughed at my jokes
2. she leans forwards when i do
3. she didn't have a problem when i touched her shoulder or hand
4. she smiled or smirked when i touched her chin or cheek

#2 can be skipped and sometimes ignored but when 2 ppl are trying to get to know each other better they often do the same things at the same time. (pick up a glass and drink at the same time)

[dancingdoc2]

5. When she lingers at the front door and looks expectantly into your eyes.

[odis85]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

5. When she lingers at the front door and looks expectantly into your eyes.

lol no thats on a different list.. and its the only one on that list

[penguinkool]

Originally Posted by 101sa

Hey Im a 20 year old male.

From what Ive heard its good to make some light physical contact to break the "touch barrier" before kissing, etc. I think holding hands is a good idea, but Im not sure when is a good time to hold a girls hand on a date.

I have a few things I am wondering about:

1) Is it ok to hold a girls hand on the first date?
2) Do all girls even want you to make light physical contact before kissing?
3) If I try to hold a girls hand and she doesnt want to, is this going to turn her off?
4) When should I even hold her hand?

As you can see I over analyze things alot and it really drives me crazy sometimes. I would really appreciate any educated answers. Thank you.

ok
1) yes it is highly advised to it makes sure that you feel the same way
2) most do unless they have been raped most will accept a light touch
3) highly unlikely most girls that dont accept that on the first date means theyare just not into you like that YET!
4) when you think it is right