i feal one sided please help

[silver_jk_alakalec]

me and my girlfriend are fighting and i just want to make it stop.

so when its something little i just push my side once or twice then drop it so as to just keep things happy and thats actualy the bulk of our fights.
so not that bad on little things but when ever its something i feal very strongly about i wont just drop it.
i push it till its resolved. but when ever i do that vs talking about it all she dose it try and turn every thing i say back at me or pulls up a completly unrelated thing that ive done in the past and rubs it in my face and swears that it is true to the curent sistuation when its not at all. which i could understand if it was to compare the past with the present but its not its just to try and make me feal bad.
then when i point this out she dose everything to make me feal bad untill it gets to the point i want to just say forget it.
i mean she wont lissen to my side blows up when ever i give my side and makes sure i feal like a a**hole for doing so.
i mean what am i to do i wont break up with her thats not a option but i wont back down eaither.

for example of our big fights:

the most resent one was over a dream i had that i didnt ask for or even want and she knew that i just used it as a example to ask for new stuff in bed after she questain why i wanted it.

but the fight was i had a dream where me and her were makeing love and while we did that i tounged another chick.
i told her that id like to try some new things in bed as in new possitions and different forplay.
as that dream got my mind going on a bunch of different ideas.
she asked what brought about the idea to try new things and i told her that dream and from that she turned it into im bored with her which im not. and that since like 2 weeks ago she saw a note that a girl gave me with the name of a anime convenshion that me and my friends (male and female) were thinking about going to. i had just needed the name so i could see if it was something id like to go to.
which i did decline to and she knew that. but she took that as i wanted to start doing other chicks. because she though i wasnt gonna tell her about it. but in reality i just wanted to look at there info first before i even asked her if she wanted to go.
so then i said slow down all i said was i wanted to spice up things in bed. and she contiuned to try and make me a out as a a**hole.
so i said well if this dream that im not asking for is so bad then how dose it compare to the time when i asked what your most out there thing for me to do was and she said "id like you to have gay sex infront of me." and the argument then moved to me asking how is your fantasy that you wanted me to do ok but a dream that i didnt want nor ask for is completly wrong in every way all because it involved me tounging another chick.



sorry for this long rant and all its jsut got me so freaking upset and need to know is my view of this distorted or am i the bad guy.

[wet_suit_one]

Ah yes, the many joys of relationships. Nothing like fighting over nothing. For some women (girls?), they just want to fight over something because it's fun for them. Peace and tranquility isn't in their vocabulary...

I have no wisdom for you friend...

[wet_suit_one]

Except maybe you should dump her. I know that's tough medicine, but how much longer do you want to live with this? I almost married a woman like this. Thank GOD!!! I did not go through with it.

[Brandye]

Suit,

You often give pretty good advice. Here, however, you are responding to a barely literately stated issue that is classic in puppy love with a misogynist's fervor.

Perhaps it is just too similar to an experience in your background. And, though I believe separation between the two is the answer, I would not lay the blame on her exclusively.

Silver, do her a favor: write it off to experience and move on.

[silver_jk_alakalec]

i am this was mainly me venting here.
but just wanted others opinon to see if i was in the wrong here

[dancingdoc2]

One of the aspects of maturity is learning how to negotiate for those things that are important, to pick your battles and not "fight" over every issue big or small. In fact, fighting is not productive. Try debating.