Why do girls always ignore the obvious?

[Ducy]

Like seriously? Why is it girls always make the guys who have a lot in common with them and who are sweet to them "friends" and assholes who they have nothing in common with "boyfriends"?

I know someone. Were really close, share a lot of common interests, have tons of fun hanging out, had similair relationships and relationship problems. I mean two peas in a pod sort of thing.

There is sexual attraction cuz we both have admitted to wanting each other. The only thing is we both think being in a relationship is better that just a one night or fwb. Yes I have morals lol. I am done with one night stands and fwb (although with her I wouldnt mind)

We both have the same sexual interests and turn ons, and were both very open about it.

But she wont date me since were best friends. Its like.....

I mean granted she just got out of a relationship but we have talked about it before and she is like kinda fickle about it. And I dont understand cuz she talks about how her next guy needs to be sweet, have common interests in and out of bed, have a good job, goals in life etc, and pretty much describes me and its like....grrr....

[CrackBaby]

Because they look at things for different biological reasons. Most of these girls will eventually want to settle down with a nice guy that they can change to be what they want (their bitch/'equal partner'). But when they are in their early 20s and in plain attraction dating mode, nice guys are nice simply because they don't have enough pussy available to them.

Just like most girls who are hot enough to have tons of guys throwing themselves at them become bitchy to sort through to just the ones they want. It follows that a man who can have whoever he wants and has lots of girls throwing themselves at him will also behave like he doesn't really need whoever is giving him attention.

So you can always be there for a girl, spend tons of time discussing her problems, offer to help with homework, even buy her stuff. But I will end up fucking her and I won't spend very much time, or money, if any on doing it.

If you want to get laid, the best way to go about it is to make it obvious to girls that other girls of equal or better sexual value to themselves (i.e.: hotter) want you. You do this by doing social things with your target, or just being in places where a lot of girls know you and will be a bit flirty in front of the girl that you actually want. Don't try and make friends because then you just become a girl in her eyes.

[mattc]

Don't worry, the minute you find someone else she'll get crazy jealous. Unfortunately for her it may be too late. Happened to me.....of course that girl happened to be crazy. Literally, on medication crazy. I'm not just being mean. To be honest, I kind of new it would happen and enjoyed it myself. If I'm not good enough for you until I'm taken then something is way wrong.

In retrospect it's the best thing that ever happened to me! I love my wife, we are so much more compatible that the other girl and her true colors came out. And we thought we were best friends up until that point too. Trust me, you'll be fine.

[odis85]

everyone ignores whats obvious if it opposes what they already believe. she believes your a good friend... you have to prove that you would be a good bf for her.

[sarah_rsl]

The notion that women prefering assholes is very popular with a lot of guys.

How many guys like to pine away 'oh she'll never know how well I was going to look after her' etc etc. It makes guys feel better about lack of success with women that they don't really have much in common with and that don't feel any attraction to them in return.

Originally Posted by CrackBaby

Because they look at things for different biological reasons. Most of these girls will eventually want to settle down with a nice guy that they can change to be what they want (their bitch/'equal partner'). But when they are in their early 20s and in plain attraction dating mode, nice guys are nice simply because they don't have enough pussy available to them.

Just like most girls who are hot enough to have tons of guys throwing themselves at them become bitchy to sort through to just the ones they want. It follows that a man who can have whoever he wants and has lots of girls throwing themselves at him will also behave like he doesn't really need whoever is giving him attention.

So you can always be there for a girl, spend tons of time discussing her problems, offer to help with homework, even buy her stuff. But I will end up fucking her and I won't spend very much time, or money, if any on doing it.

If you want to get laid, the best way to go about it is to make it obvious to girls that other girls of equal or better sexual value to themselves (i.e.: hotter) want you. You do this by doing social things with your target, or just being in places where a lot of girls know you and will be a bit flirty in front of the girl that you actually want. Don't try and make friends because then you just become a girl in her eyes.

Crackbaby why did I know you were going to love this thread. I'm not sure how qualified a 28 year old virgin is to psycho analyse women but you go ahead. However reading your posts, I think the fact that women have avoided you tends to disprove the notion.

[CrackBaby]

i'm 23 and i have probably had more sex than all the men on this forum combined, other than the gay ones (tough to compete when everyone puts out no matter what at a bar night).

[Brandye]

CrackBaby, you are not only a sexist ass but clearly bigoted in many other ways. Assume that 1. you are a woman; and then, 2. You are a gay man and read what you have posted here. Offensive is the most polite term I can think of.

[arutha]

There can be any amount of things in common between you, and you can get along so well, but the key is that she must feel attraction. Feelings are everything, if she doesn't feel attracted to you then no matter how logical it is that you would treat her well and such, she won't go out with you. You need to build attraction not by always being there for her and being open, but by being a bit mysterious, being fun to be around, being a sexual person, flirting a lot, being very relaxed and self confident, having open and confident body language, and making her feel comfortable and safe around you. If you don't do that, then she just thinks of you as a friend even if you would 'logically' be perfect for her. You need to be sexual, and make her think of you in a sexual way first and foremost, rather than thinking of you in a friends way which she clearly is now.

[CrackBaby]

If you're friends now, and not sure why, I guarantee that trying to switch it into a sexual gear unless she's ridiculously drunk is going to just make you look weird.

[CrackBaby]

Originally Posted by Brandye

CrackBaby, you are not only a sexist ass but clearly bigoted in many other ways. Assume that 1. you are a woman; and then, 2. You are a gay man and read what you have posted here. Offensive is the most polite term I can think of.

Probably makes my points more valid rather than less though.