What is a good time frame in which to have sex with a non-virgin?

[newchris101]

my gf isnt a virgin and i was wondering i dont really want to push it but i know she wants it already and i mean that in a completely serious way but i dont really know. we have only been dating for a few months.(2)

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

when the right time for both of you, some people wait a month and others more then that, just depends how you feel and comfortable
best bet is to take it slowly and go from there
talk to her about it and say you dont want to rush things, maybe start by touching and building it up that way

[dancingdoc2]

Yes, and, communication is the key to a healthy relationship and this includes the romantic and sexual aspects of it.

Please read the articles listed in the Index on all this. They pretty much lay it out A-Z.

Once you have read the articles on being ready for sex, as well as the linked articles, then I recommend sitting down with her at a time when you are not to be romantic and have a discussion about what she wants out of the relationship, within what time frame, what about sex, AND WHAT ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL. This is another series of articles either listed in the Index, or you can do a site search on contraceptives. We recommend three: yours, hers, and ours.

Once you begin talking to her you will probably learn a lot. Once you begin reading all or most of the articles listed in the Index, you will probably learn a lot more.

[Ducy]

There is no time frame in which sex is "due".

When its right its right. You could be in a relatinoship where it doesnt happen for a few months, or one in which it happens in a month.

I know a girl who was a virgin, and dated a guy for 17 months and never went past light make out. She then dated a man she lost her virginity within two months....it was just right to her.

Same principle applies to your gf...just cuz she is a non virgin doesnt mean that she will give it up whenever. If she really wants to, it will happen. And if you both really want it, then it will definitely happen asap. If one of you is hesitant...your probably not ready.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sex is due whenever she wishes it although a little cooperation on this is appreciated.

[arutha]

8-9 hours of contact time in at least 3 different locations is the average time for a girl to become comfortable enough with you to have sex with you. Of course many many other factors come into play as well including chemistry between the two of you and how much you have both been flirting.

I had sex with my current gf well before we were officially going out, around two weeks after we started seeing each other casually and kissing and stuff. My last gf, around 2 weeks after I had met her on our third 'date', the second time we shared a bed. It is just a matter of turning things up but keeping an eye on her boundaries and comfort levels, if she is comfortable making out and both of you running your hands over each other, then turn it up a bit. If not, then ease back for a while until she is more comfortable.

[newchris101]

best advice i have gotten on this website

[EvilEvilKitten]

What is a good time frame in which to have sex with a non-virgin?

Whenever she wants it.

[CrackBaby]

wait what's the problem here? she wants it and you don't? maybe you should stop being a little girl?

[newchris101]

no thats not the problem. i just see that when my friends date non virgins they have sex very quickly like within three weeks lol.