Making Out--Knowing How Far To Go

[Karebeargirl]

Wow sounds like an asswhole, I would of said "no sex unless you treat me with respect". " I may be your wife but you don't own me I my body".

[linhely]

A wise man waits for her because he knows that when a woman wants him, she will let him know - in no uncertain terms.
She touches you first. She unzips/unbuttons something first. She does whatever first.
Wait for her to send you a clear signal. Then you can cut loose.


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[nicko321]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

Read up on IC and use it for all aspects of your relationship. In additon to the link, above, please do an Advanced Search of the forums using my name and the term "Implied Consent" for discussions on how this method operates. It can be implemented for all aspects of a relationship, not just the romance department. Please do not misunderstand. Of course you should ask questions when it comes to choices or preferences that are important to her and the two of you. You need information in order to guide a relationship and to decide what activities to pursue, etc. Once you have her input on a particular matter, then IC is used primarily as described.

I also recommend reading some of the dating articles listed in the Index.

** As discussed in one or more of the how-to articles on making out, the best method is to kiss and caress in a progressive manner. Doing so instills comfort and builds her confidence in you and what you are doing. Furthermore, a progressive all inclusive approach builds each person's level of arousal, excitement, expectation, and, sexual tension.

Using your description of events, if you attempted to finger her before working up to this level of intimacy by first grazing over the area with your fingers on the outside of her clothing, then slipping inside the waistband, then unfastening her pants and tentatively grazing over the outside of her panties beginning near a perimeter and ever so slowly advancing closer to her Pubic Mound and upper Vulva, then you are not building her comfort level systematically. Make your moves slowly as well as in small progressive increments.

This method is also important when it comes time for breast play and transitioning from "Petting" to "Heavy Petting" in which the breasts are incrementally and progressively exposed, fondled, and, stimulated.

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When you stated that you "slip your fingers in to do their magic", did you mean inside her pants, shorts, or skirt; or, inside her under ware? If the latter, then back up, slip your hand out from the inside to caressing this area on the outside of her panties and consider this her present boundary.

When I said to "back off", you need only back up a little bit. Give her time to become accustomed to this level of intimacy and to become comfortable with what you are doing and the feelings and sensations she is experiencing.

KISSING & CARESSING--a young person's guide to EXPLORATION

THANK YOU
i think i should thank you very much for you can waste lot of time to write this post .....
thank you again for your sharing..

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[Ronpaul]

You STOP if your accomplice says STOP.


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[dancingdoc2]

> THANK YOU
> i think i should thank you very much for you can waste lot of time to write this post .....
thank you again for your sharing..

Please clarify what you said as this is not at all clear to me. Are you suggesting that I wasted my time writing my reply, or, are you thanking me for writing the reply, above?

[katelynn]

Raunchy girl , having been raped myself I know it sucks and sure life goes on but your scarred for life no way out. I have tried cutting and succesfully quite have any suggestions that may help?

At the question at hand.
Well I've always been a bit of a Bella Swan myself (Twilight saga) and would jump to get laid of course that was like when I was in middle school now I say "Fuck off asswhole." "I'll call you you don't call me." I have an anger issue so yea. I'm always where I say I am when I say I am though and it's not that I hate love it's that I find it hard to trust people my favorite song Because of you- Kelly Clarkson. She's soooooo pretty too.
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Because of you I never stray to far from the sidewalk because of you I always play on the safe side so I don't get hurt because of you I find it hard to trust not only me but everyone around me because of you I am afraid because of you

[dancingdoc2]

> I find it hard to trust people

Instead of saying that I've written a lot about "trust", let me correctly state that I have often repeated what I have written about trust. Please do a site search using the advanced search engine.

To establish trust in a new relationship and to get it off dead stop and moving in a positive direction it is necessary that the two people involved be willing to give each other some initial amount of trust. This done, then broader and deeper trust can be established over time as a history of reliability and truth are developed. Put another way, you have to be willing to give in order to get.