So...I need a rebound but I cant seem to figure it out

[Ducy]

^^^ This ^^^ lol

I have had a very complicated life as of late. The biggest thing of it being that my best friend removed me from her life completely. Removed me off her myspace/facebook, out of her email contacts. Now my best friend happened to be my ex, and I realized that I really still loved her alot (even after a year of being just friends) So I tried to fill the gap with drinking partying random hook ups. I mean I pretty much was fucking everything up. Then I wised up with the help of a few forum members (you guys know who you are) as well as some close personal friends out here in cali.

But I feel like I should get in a rebound type relationship. I know it may sound terrible but I just miss that feeling of a warm body next to me. And it makes it harder and harder to forget about my friend when I realize how alone I feel.

You guys have any advice? i mean I have tried joining clubs but I am not currently in school and there arent many YMCA type things around. When I go to the gym its not a bunch of people socializing its just people working out. And yea I have talked to and hooked up with random girls but I would be at parties and I dont generally remember much in terms of convo (generally being wasted or close too wasted)

[funinthesun]

Take care of yourself. With happiness comes confidence and a greater ability to see what you want in others, as well as others likelihood of being attracted to you.

[dancingdoc2]

Rebound relationships rarely work out and rarely are completely satisfying. It takes a good year to get over the past one and what happens more often than not with rebounds is that the the person on the rebound still thinks about the past and does not give his/her all to the new person and the new "connection".

Because rebounds are usually not successful, not only does the new person end up feeling let down because of what could have been didn't happen, the rebound person is left with a feeling of emptiness. It is better to not date at all than to give a new person only part of your attention. If you want to date during this year of recuperation and regrouping, do so, only keep it light and give yourself time to heal.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stop seeking 'relationships' and just date. You're scaring the girls away. Focus on NOT drinking. Focus on doing other things that you enjoy that also appeal to girls so you can get out and meet some - not necessarily a club. Look around and see where girls go and what girls do. Investigate a bit. Then plan your hunt, then get out there and hunt your plan.

[Ducy]

LOL EEK I think I love you! You always have the best little quotes. I havent had a drink in about 2 weeks. The party didnt even wind up having alcohol. I wound up leaving (yes I left my own party but no I am not a bad host) I went to a suicide intervention cuz my friend was depressed over a girl. When I got back though people were still there so it was all good they had fun!

As far as doing what I love, I have started working at a gaming center. We havent opened, but I have been helping them set up the store. I met the VP of the company, and I think I am going to be a manager! Mounted over 112 flat screens today so I am exhausted, but some of the girls who came in the last shift to help with cleaning and such were amazingly attractive. Not only that but they knew about gaming and such lol. So I think I died and went to heaven haha! Hopefully I will get a few numbers cuz I spent the last hour of my shift helping and talking to them!

[sera300]

Ducy:

Just be yourself. People like you that way & just think YOU taught me to txt!