typical girl help

[Im A Big Boy]

me and this girl kissed last weekend and ive been talking to her after school each day so far. that night her friends told me that she liked me but the day after i found out she wanted to get to know me first. last night i asked if she liked someone and she said my name. she has also agreed to hanging out on the weekend but at times she doesnt seem interested and i get worried that she doesnt actually like me. how can i find out if she actually likes me and how would i know if she wanted to kiss again during a party?
thank you for the help

[sera300]

Just hang around her & get to know her. Slow down. Get to know her as your friend & you shall find your own answers.

[Mr. Saint]

Not trying to be rude, but how old are you?

[dancingdoc2]

"Not trying to be rude, Mr. Saint, but, age doesn't matter. What matters is that this site be used for the dissemination and acquisition of helpful information regardless of experience or age.

Boys and girls begin maturing at different ages. Each of us have different experiences along the way to tomorrow. If a boy or girl, man or woman does not yet have the answer(s) you have, please do not berate them based on age or any other criteria.

To the o/p--
I agree with Sera. Work on establishing a friendship. If the friendship is to become something deeper, it will spring from this foundation.

I have written a lot about the use of "Implied Consent" with regard to relationships and also making out. Simply put, it works like this: Women set the limits or boundaries for how far to go. This means with the relationship at any given time, AND, it means how far a guy can go when making out. So, how do we know if we can have a friendship, a relationship, kiss, make out; and, how far we can go or how to tell when we've reached her limit? Implied Consent.

Presume you have her approval and then operate as if approval was stated. (This eliminates questions like: "Can I kiss you?" "Do you want to do...?" Proceed as if approval has been given.

How far is too far? When you have reached a limit she will tell you or otherwise indicated that this is far enough. A woman is also free to extend a limit whenever she is comfortable doing so. Next question: "How do I know when I can go farther?" If you are making out, proceed to the last limit and if she does not stop you from going any further, continue on until reaching the new limit, and so on.

The same goes for relationships. If you have established a friendship and it seems to be working, stand back and observe her body language and what the two of you talk about. If she wants more from you she will indicated it either by word or action. Just watch and be observant. Of course you can always tell her that you would like to go on a date with her, although, my guess is that before you let this be known, you have already determined that there is a connection between you.

What about kissing. There are articles listed in the Index that discuss all this. Much of how to proceed with the first kiss, any kiss, all hinges on Implied Consent. Learn about it.

As for seeming to be interested in you one moment and not another. Well, girls are fickle this way. It can also be a test to determine how you react Do you give up the chase or pursue her. Understand it, don't place too much emphasis on it for the time being; acquire some "history" with this person and then see where the two of you stand.

> her friends told me that she liked me but the day after i found out she wanted to get to know me first.

That said, how do you plan to incorporate "Implied Consent" into your next move?

Get thee to a telephone, call her (no messaging or E-mail) tell her you'd like to do this or that with her and ask if she is interested. If so, set up a date and time or if one doesn't work, an alternative. Keep in mind she might have plans so always ask for and give an alternative. If she wants to go on a date, or just hang out, she will see that it happens. All you have to do is start the ball rolling and show up on time.

Kissing? There are articles on this listed in the Index.

Please read these articles and if you have additional questions, do not hesitate to ask.

[Mr. Saint]

I just wanted to know if she was in high school and if so what year. Things change from middle school to high school to college. You know I would be the last person to discriminate because some one is too young.

[dancingdoc2]

Point taken. Your question came across wrong. I apologize for my overly sensitive ire.

[EvilEvilKitten]

She likes you if she agrees to be with you. If you want to kiss her, go for it. If she wants you to kiss her she will let you. If she doesn't, she will duck. What's so hard to understand?

[dancingdoc2]

Now! that is putting Implied consent into practice.

[Ephemera]

Just a hint... talking to her after school every day and constantly testing to see if she likes you is counter productive... ask her if she'd like to hang out, but don't be a bother.

You don't have to talk to her every day for her to like you. In fact, she might like you more if you give her a day or two between conversations.