Double Date

[tataa]

Okay so I went on a double date with my friend Saturday. It was more like a fifth wheel though because his friend tagged along. So it's three guys and 2 girls. The guy made light conversation with me and paid for my dinner. We went to a boring club afterward. I'm like I want to go home. Mainly because the club was dead and I don't drink much. We didn't exchange numbers and I dunno if it's the fact that I wanted to leave or the fact that he was nervous also that made him not ask? I'm confused. My friend claims he said I was sexy but if I was sexy then why couldn't he tell me that? I don't discriminate and neither does he (so she said) but I think the fact that I'm a different race from him made him uncomfortable.

[Brandye]

Nothing worse than an extra on a date except on a first date. Given that three-two imbalance I do not believe that anything good or bad should be inferred from anything that happened. Or did not happen.

[dancingdoc2]

> I'm confused. My friend claims he said I was sexy but if I was sexy then why couldn't he tell me that? I don't discriminate and neither does he (so she said) but I think the fact that I'm a different race from him made him uncomfortable.

Most likely he did not say anything for one or more of the following reasons:

* he is shy
* he is really shy
* he isn't too sure what she should say particularly when you were with another guy in this lopsided outing.

Please do not play the race card--at least until you know more about him.

My suggestion is to get word back to him via one of the others that you enjoyed that evening (even if only a little) and that you would be open to having him ask you out sometime real soon, then leave your phone number. If he calls, great. If not--well, on to the next candidate.

[tataa]

Thanks guys. You always have some good feedback.

[EvilEvilKitten]

"The club was dead and I wanted to go home."

Why? Couldn't you think of ANYTHING to talk about? Frankly, you were bored because you were boring. Teach him how to dance if nothing else comes to mind. So you don't drink? So what? Neither do I when I'm out and doing the driving. Doesn't stop me from having a good time. Ask the dj to spin your favorites and get some dancing in. Explain how a cam shaft works. Doesn't matter if you know anything about cam shafts, of course - just make it sound good. Play words games. Grab a napkin and work out all of the ramifications of E=mc2. Let your imagination loose and MAKE a good time - don't just expect one to be handed to you.

[tataa]

Sometimes I honestly do expect a good time to be handed to me. I'm use to it! I am boring at times but most of the time I'm a fun person. I actually was talking but there is oh so much to talk about at a club. Maybe I set my expectations a little too high. But then again that's not my type of scene. If I wanted to eat and drink I could've done that at home. Maybe I'm seeking connection that wasn't there to begin with. I'm a good person. Everyone I know knows this...

[sera300]

Originally Posted by tataa

Sometimes I honestly do expect a good time to be handed to me. I'm use to it! I am boring at times but most of the time I'm a fun person. I actually was talking but there is oh so much to talk about at a club. Maybe I set my expectations a little too high. But then again that's not my type of scene. If I wanted to eat and drink I could've done that at home. Maybe I'm seeking connection that wasn't there to begin with. I'm a good person. Everyone I know knows this...

You need to hang with the guys who are the academic smarties, kiddo...aka the "geeks". You know that! Your better off strolling over to the local College library & chatting up a conversation w/one of those guys! You need to date a man about 6 years older than you are.

More your style...but your better than you were before! You will find your place...

[tataa]

Originally Posted by sera300

You need to hang with the guys who are the academic smarties, kiddo...aka the "geeks". You know that! Your better off strolling over to the local College library & chatting up a conversation w/one of those guys! You need to date a man about 6 years older than you are.

More your style...but your better than you were before! You will find your place...

Thank you sera! That means a lot coming from you. Seeing as I know you a little better than before. I also honestly believe that I do need to be with someone older. More of my status .

[EvilEvilKitten]

Didn't we mention something about that before? I seem to recall counseling someone to go older - women tending to mature faster than men. Ah well!

[sera300]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Didn't we mention something about that before? I seem to recall counseling someone to go older - women tending to mature faster than men. Ah well!

Yes...I think we did! She only jumped up a few though...not the right ones yet! She will find them, she is a smart young lady! I have faith in her; she need to keep the attitude!

T:

Do you have the College Applications out? SAT's done?