when is enough enough?

[duh477]

I had sex with a girl on the first night and I really wanted it to be more she said she had gotten out of a long relationship and was in a weird place (what ever that means) theres always a bunch of reason why im never allowed to be the guy, and thats ok i guess. I usually say fine and thats it. I never try to force it. But should I? Do girls want someone who is forceful or willing to tried harder and not give up so easy?

[Ducy]

If your talking about rape....hell nah!

If she doesnt wanna have sex she dont wanna have sex.

What do you mean about never allowed to be the guy?

[duh477]

im not talkin about rape geez, i mean ive never had an actual girfriend the most any girl has gone out with me is twice, I can never build a relationship they just give me a bunch of reasons about other relationships they have had or not wanting to be tied down or whatever, and I usually just say thats fine and move on. What i mean is should I ever try harder and tell them they are making a mistake and they should give me a chance with a relationship or should i always just give up as soon as they give me a bunch of reasons why they dont? Because I have confidence and think I would be a good boyfriend but i just dont get the chance or even enough dates to have that be a possibility.

[sera300]

You want more from the relationship is what you are saying...I gotcha.

Hang around but see others. She may come around with time. But to be a b/f right now? No. Odd place is just out of a relationship, still uncomfortable, and testing the waters...you don't want to be her rebound guy!

[Ducy]

Lol sorry misread the post.

[Brandye]

It is easily misread. I think it is in some form of English.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stop looking for a "relationship".

Apparently the ladies enjoy you for sex and most likely would keep you around - if you didn't push this relationship thing.

So, stop with the relationship and go with what you're getting WHILE keeping an eye out for a "relationship" that happens to develop.

[MIGHTY BOOSH]

I don't know, do you like this girl?

If not or you don't think a relationship with her will work, wait for a girl you really like and to be with.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sorry but coming on with a "relationship" when all she wants is a "close friend" or FWB - she's going to RUN. He sounds desperate and needy. That alone will ruin his chances. Hence, my advice to COOL IT with the "lets have a relationship".

[duh477]

well, i think she's done with me last week i invited her to a party at a local college bar and she declined and then i saw her there and just wanted to say hi and she went out of her way to try to avoid me.