how to not seem needy

[Newtolove]

and I expect if she offers to buy you a drink she is definitly interested !

[duh477]

Wow something I wrote became a sticky never thought that would happen lol

[THQMA5]

i asked a girl out she said yeah.
i asked her another day about when you wanted to go out and she said stop talking about it or it wont happend?!?!?!
helpful information please

[RightNow]

Ask her when she's free and if she fancys doing anything on those days.. If she doesn't want to see you everyday don't worry about it. I know for me that would be too much to see my boyfriend and im in love with him lol, many girls are the same. Just take it slow, as she falls for you more and more she will want to spend more time with you.

[EvilEvilKitten]

THQ - you made an elementary mistake.

You did NOT ask her out at a specific date, time and place or event.

NEVER do that again.

You basically let her off the hook. She can say "yes", knowing it will never happen, just to get you out of her face/off her back. You do not know where you stand with her.

Now if you had invited her as I ecommended above, she'd have to say a clear yes or no - then you'd know where you were with her.

[lustygal]

I have read that if I find a topic that relates to my pending question, I should refrain from creating a separate thread

So here it goes:

I currently am feeling a bit suffocated by a close male friend of mine who has been clingy lately. In no way are we dating, and I currently have no intentions of changing that.

My problem is he seems to be treating our relationship as if we are, in fact, dating - being slightly possessive and just all in all, giving me no air to breathe, metaphorically speaking.

I have several other male friends who do not emulate his actions, and I do not understand why he won't back down, even after I have expressed we are just friends.

Any advice as to how to get through to him? Other than this, I enjoy being with him tremendously.

[EvilEvilKitten]

What to say is "Goodbye". If he doesn't take a "we are just friends" for his answer then you need to get rid of him.

[blackknight]

Originally Posted by duh477

Wow something I wrote became a sticky never thought that would happen lol

It was rightly stickied. Neediness and desperation are the biggest enemies of a man looking for a woman and the most potent attraction killers. The reason why it afflicts young men is that they have usually less choice and options than young women.

The only way to keep neediness at bay is to improve yourself so that you have equal choice and options than women have. In other words, to attract the woman you want, you've got to learn to be good with women in general.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sorry, but no man will ever have the options and choices that a woman has. Just how it is.

Be fun. Be confident. Be relaxed.

[Bushidokaizen]

well it also depends if you or she is the needy type and why type of needy.

if you NEED to see her every day or at least a certain number of times per week, you're needy and nothing wrong with that, its just your options of other girls will be lower.

If you're fine with talking on the phone, AIM, email, any other type of communication that doesn't involve being in person, then you're not that needy but flexible in that way.

if you seriously need to see the person weekly in person, then think of a person to date that is very similar with you in this manner or tweek your needs.