Online lover question

[luv2ma8]

Hi all,

I'm sorta "seeing" someone online. We both know it's purely sexual. We both met playing this online game and I've known him for a few years now but it didnt really get this "serious" till March of this year. We always talk online and flirt, and have, I guess you can call it cybersex. Recently, he asked me for some underwear of mine..

My question is, should I send it just in case down the road this should turn sour? I dont want it coming back to haunt me. We both have a lot of online friends who we play with everyday.

Your thoughts?

TIA

[nuttychick]

Nope Dont send him anything.... I am also a gamer and have many online flirty flings... But never with anyone in my own country..


I have only ever sent 1 pic of my "bits" to one guy and that was when i got my piercing.. to me it was more art then sexual lol...
he passed it on to everyone we knew..

one guy asked me to send my underwear and i sent a mens pair and told him to think of me when he wore them lol

Just be careful because postage can be traced and they can find out where you live.......

[sera300]

For all of you who do this stuff; here is a real story. While on EH, a dating site, I had opened communications with a man who appeared nice. Okay after quite a few e-mails, nothing intimate, we spoke on the phone...cell only. He seemed strange, I closed the match & never heard from him until....9 months later. He lied about where he lived, traced my cell, had my full name, did a GPS search & located my property. He showed up on my doorstep ready to propose...I was seeing someone. I thought the fedex man was dropping off a gift I ordered when this man walked in stating he was my ex boyfriend. He thought EH implied marriage; came across the US to show up, and when asked to leave did so angry. The next two years my attorney & my family received packages & letters...I had to send my attorney to his state to take a Order of protection against him to keep myself & the whole family safe.

Mind you all he had was my cell number...all you do is pay $15.00 and get the owners name & address; the remainder is public information. Think long and hard before you play with strangers.

[nuttychick]

holy poo Sera...... thats scary....
I feel it is a bit different in gaming circles.. we are there to game and chat etc. its not really for dating .
most gamers use voice chat where alot of other people are connected at the same time kinda more like an extended family, if someone steps out of line they
all become involved.
I have only had one that became very serious, threatened to track me down etc. he ended up by being blocked from e-mail, msn and from all voice programs. and removed permantly from all games we played...

So in short the gaming community is quite alot safer then a dating site

[sera300]

My point is only use caution when contacting someone via mail or cell when there is something sexual involved! Too many freaks and people are easy to track down! First gaming, then sending him her undies, next it will be phone chat about sex...may not know what one is getting into or how easy it is to find people! I found out the hard way.

[sera300]

What is gaming??? What are voice programs? What is an on-line lover? Is that part of the Game?

[lnt1103]

Sera's right....be EXTREMELY careful. I've done dating sites. The only three people I spoke to on the phone more than once(including T), for each man it took me a cell phone #, $65 and 36 hours (at the longest) to have full name, complete residential address history(wherever they've lived, ever), and a 35 state criminal background check emailed to me.

Having said all that.....I PERSONALLY was doing that to be safe about it....but it goes both ways. There are unsafe people who will do the same thing for unscrupulous and frightening reasons. If you see ANY red flag whatsoever, even if its merely the size of a cocktail pick, TURN AND RUN!!!!!

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by sera300

What is gaming??? What are voice programs? What is an on-line lover? Is that part of the Game?

Lol Sera...

What is gaming??? a multiplayer game you can play online or by yourself. i play medal of honour, bf142 and COD 4 all war games which you shoot people

What are voice programs? These are either Teamspeak or Ventrilio. which you download a program and you talk with people who you play with

What is an on-line lover? lol its all talk ... can be quite a turn on at times.. I personally think it is funny.. guys get so excited with it.. but you would never catch me touching myself and getting carried away with it..lol I much prefer fleash instead of words..


Is that part of the Game? lol No

[sera300]

Oh so they are all separate? I thought in online gaming; you were playing a game, like someone else's life, and the on-line lover was a fictitious boyfriend while a woman cheated on her fictitious husband, in a fictitious life.

And lnt is quite correct on the topic of checking peoples info...one can even obtain a detailed phone list of all calls which were made from home & to whom. Knowing where you go on a regular basis. To really emphasize a point...also a person can pay for a e-tap to be placed on a phone line & listen to all your conversations made from that number...realize this also entails finding out personal & financial information. Take a individuals full name, town & state...put in in geo acess you have a full aerial shot and full lay out of their home. As I said; this was found out the hard way....the BCI had to bring in their undercover narc. guys to explain how the picture fit together much less explain any of it to me.

[luv2ma8]

Thank You all for your responses.

Nuttychick...lol good idea with the boxers!