Going out(dates) help

[random111]

heya guys little back ground info on me and my girl friend befor i get down to the question

We are both 17, We went to the same school and never ever Spoke to each other lol.... and now we work together and we have been together 3 months
And really really happy.

Ok problem is I am not much of a going out kind of person, and she go's to quite a few partys..( this dosent bother me i let her have her fredom ) And i totaly trust her. When we do go out its just to cinema or a walk in the park or stay in and watch a movie, But i feel asif im boaring her.. she says its fine and dosent mind She knows i dont really like going out..

What ya think?? Am I boaring her allso theres not really much to do where i live if u are only 17 lol And im soon to pass my driving exam witch will open a few more " going out options "

Any surgestions please post em up Thank you for reading x

[duh477]

u sound just like me accept im about to be 21 and can go to bars and happy hours and stuff, but i know what you mean Ive gone out w a few girls and really just dont know what to do with them or where to go I just dont know what girls do for fun?, I have went to basball and hockey games with them which is fun, i want to take a girl to an observatory to look at stars and planets i think that would be cool and different u could try that

[sera300]

I'd say it would be boring. I think if she enjoys going out & you want to stay in you need to compromise or she will move on. At 17, there is more to do than sit home & watch a movie.

So, you do not drive. How does she get to go to party's? What's wrong with a walk? Taking a bus to do something specific. Even try taking her shopping. Museums, walks through a park, party's, etc. all work.

If you explained a bit of where you live, the type of town or city it may make it easier than guessing.

[dancingdoc2]

> i let her have her fredom

You do? That sounds magnanimous. Are you controlling in other ways? Last I heard a relationship is where two people come together in order to build something greater than the sum of its two parts. Each of us live separate lives while apart yet join forces at the end of the day.

I grew up in a small town at the heart of California's Mother Lode with one public and one church school plus a high school. Without a car our parents drove us, we double dated, or, took a taxi. Somehow we got around. There was one movie theater down town and one drive-in. We had a skating rink for a few years and a bowling alley. That's that. I agree that being able to drive will expand your ability to travel from town to town or from the farm to town, however, if you really want to go someplace and do something, you have to be creative, car or not.

Our town didn't always have a taxi service. Buses? Shucks, the entire town was one main street that was two miles long! nestled in a canyon.

A walk in the park. A hike and picnic, let your imagination and your collective interests be your guide.

If you plan to be a well rounded individual who is interesting to be around, I also believe you need to expand your horizons and interests and to try new things, whether you end up liking them enough to repeat them or not. I know teens like to lie around on the couch and chill out, but in a few months your going to have to pull yourself up by your boot straps and get a life as the saying goes. Better to begin now before your girlfriend, or future girlfriend moves on.

[smallestoftheclan]

Does she ask you to go to these parties with her? If you said one night you wanted to go with her what would she say? Does she go to parties where there are people you know, you did go the same school.
Why not give it a try? Say you go to a party or two in the next week or month and see what you're missing. Tell her you want to go, and that you want her to stick by your side so that you feel comfortable. If you are comfortable and decide when you get there that there is a group of people you want to talk to, tell her. "Look there is so and so, I'm going to go talk to them." She will either come join you when her conversation is over or you go join her when your's is.
You have to give it a go, try several times, try several different types of parties. At a home, at the beach, a bon-fire or whatever other types of parties there are. And if you can go with her to a restaurant where someone is having a celebration. Birthday, anniversary,graduation, engagement ect ect.
This won't mean you have to go everytime she goes, but if it's something you want to do, or something important for her to have a date take her you'll be there for her.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Actually no, you probably aren't boring her. You're welcome. What you are providing is a comfortable 'home life' type of situation where she can come back and recover from those parties, enjoy quiet time, and those little things with her BEST GUY.

KUDOS!

[random111]

Lol... no no im far from controling lol

As far as info about where i live, I live in england South east london in a kinda bad area lol we have shopping centres but they are all ways " chav " infested

As for smallestoftheclans reply

ermm she mostly go's with her best friend who knows whos party it is. I dont really want to ask if i can go with her.. becouse she may think o he dosent trust me or just trying to push my self into that part of her life

I mean yeah we do go parks and Shopping centres so it isnt asif all we do is sit in

Ive gone for 1 meal with her so far but was when i met her parents lol

[THQMA5]

lol what area of SE London as i live there im 18 but yeah its ****

[Google It]

do u like to cook? does she like to cook? there is plenty of easy recipes out there. when i stay home with my woman we both enjoy cooking. even if u cant cook it could still be a lot of fun.

[Gorgeous Mistake]

I'm also 17.

Follow what EvilEvilKitten says dude.

Since she does go out to parties and goes whenever she likes, it is not as if you are holding her back or preventing her to have as much fun. You provide stability. If you were to start partying with her frequently, then you would be a part of her "fast, wild" life and would just be another friend to have fun with or just another guy she meets at a party to mess around with.

Look as long as there is open communication and all is well, there should be no worries. Communication is the key, this way if it was bothering her or if you were boring her she would let you know.

Google It, your username is kickass. I use that phrase too, well mine is more... "Google that biatch" heh