Trying to make me feel jealous?

[austnn]

I'm in my first long term relationship. Overall it's going pretty good.
But, here recently it has seemed as though she is trying to make me jealous.
After work she always calls me and I ask about her day.
Well, now she is starting to tell me about all the guys that hit on her and flirt with her. But, she claims and swears up and down she doesn't flirt back, and that she doesn't even know how to flirt.
Last night she told me a guy at her work touched her. I asked how, and she said she would have to show me. And then went on to tell me how another guy flirted with her but she then began to talk about me to the guy.

Why is she starting to tell me all of this?
I can't figure it out. When we are together everything seems to be alright, but on the weekends after work she seems a little distant.

[smallestoftheclan]

Does she know how to flirt? Maybe she doesn't see what she does as flirting, how old are you and her? This person that touched her, scares me more than anything. To be touched in a sexual manner at all is wrong. She needs to be talking to her dad about this and not you. If there was touching at any way is wrong too for that matter.
And tell her, that you don't want to hear about the guys hitting on her, you want to know about her day. If she's on her feet all day, are her feet sore? If she answers phones, was anyone rude? Did her best work friend work today too?
Is she happy working there? Or is she unhappy and looking for a reason to quit, you asking her to. Careful on that one.

[austnn]

I saw her after work and I asked how her night was and she said it was fun.
But, not till she called me later in the evening did she tell me about this guy touching her. I don't know if it was in a sexual way. It sounds like it since she wouldn't tell me over the phone. She told him not to touch her again.
Previously to her being touched they were having a food fight.
I want to trust and do. But, with her telling me all of this it is making me question her.
She hates her job and she works customer service. She is looking for something new, and I would like for her to get out of there as soon as possible.

I'll take your advice and tell her to quit bragging to me about the guys that flirt with her and ask for her number. She says she doesn't give it out, and I believe her.
There was one time where a guy flirted with her in line (the guy was with a girl, apparently not his gf), and when she was on break she saw him and they talked during her break. He knew she had a bf but yet hit on her regardless and asked if her bf liked her working here and what he thinks about all the guys that hit on her.

[Mr. Saint]

I have a friend how loves to do things like this. She just started dating this guy and is doing the same thing, telling him things to make him a little jealous. For example, we take a drama class together and we occasionally do these sexy scenes for fun. The last one got a little hot for a class, ended with her legs around my waste and me pushing her against the wall. Don’t worry she took the lead and gave me instructions in my ear, so it was not sexual harassment. Latter when I was hanging out with her and her boy friend, she was telling him about it in a way to make him jealous, like how hot it was and maybe she is dating the wrong guy. she really likes her boy friend and talks about him endlessly and she could also have me any time she wants, but other then the occasional flirting she would never do anything with another guy. I think you probably don’t have anything to worry about. She is just messing around with you.

[xkatex]

Sounds like a girl mind game. I have a friend who has been in a relationship for quite some time and still does it. Is there anyways that you are indirectly making her jealous? Could be anything, even the less obvious things. She may be doing it to "one up you" OR to get some sort of reaction out of you. You can choose to either ignore it all together, as in dont ask questions pertaining to what shes telling you for example she says "I guy asked for my number today" you say either nothing at all (such as a no) or say something like "Sweetdeal" or "Thats Cool.".

What I found works for the guys I know when this happens is that they'll say something like "Haha you shouldve(given him your number)" It shows that your playing along with the little game and that your not oblivious to her antics. Good luck.

[austnn]

I don't think I could be making her jealous. I'm thinking about my actions in the past and things I've said and one and nothing is coming to mind.
Thanks of the advice. I've taken the approach of playing along, and in some cases I've messed around with her and told her to hang out with the new guys she's been meeting at work. I've been curious as to why she has been telling me all of this so I had to ask. If it persists I'm just going to tell her to stop telling me about her compliments, hits and flirts she receives at work.
I'm starting to get a little sick of it.
I really don't like how this guy touched her. It must of been a big deal to her or something sexual for her to even bring it up.

[xkatex]

Well i think its clear that she brought it up to tick at your nerves. It could be that shes trying to make a statement of "Other guys want me". Once again its just a ploy to make you jealous. If after you play along for awhile it still persists you need to sit her down and say "Listen I DONT CARE" and make it very very clear that her little game in known and that your sick of being volunteered to be a contestant.

[don't_understand]

Mr Saint, wow, it was sexual harrasment, only you were the one being harrassed. And you may be lucky her boyfriend didn't take your head off. And having her wrap her legs around your waist and then telling you to push her up against the wall, may be sexual harrasment by you. It would not be the first time "I didn't think he'd actually do it" was heard. Be careful, sexual harrasment, even an accusation is not what you want on your college record.
From previous threads I see you are quite young, is this woman as young as you or is she older? Is there a professor teaching this class, and how to they allow this behavior to go on? To say that the O/P probably has nothing to worry about, and to say she is just messing with him is being unsensitive with this man's feelings. And to suggest that he join in this behavior is not going to solve an issue, more like blow up all in his face.
Austnn, just be honest, keep an open mind and try to be the kind of guy that she deserves. Maybe it's a test, of a different sort. Will you stick around, or are you going to just bail????

[Mr. Saint]

What I meant by the OP having nothing to worry about is that I don’t think that she is cheating on him or anything. If it bothers him then he should defiantly talk to his girl friend.
As for my little scene, anyone could tell that she was taking the lead, she would give an instruction and I would ask her if she was serious just to make sure. She had just turned 19 and I don’t know if she knew how old I was. The whole thing was actually funnier then it was hot, everyone was laughing there heads off. The professor did finally break it up when he took notice. It was an improve class so there where a lot of scenes going on at the time. Also she was not dating the guy at the time. There first date happened a few days latter.

[don't_understand]

That is the issue I have with you Mr. Saint. You say these things and then when called on them you do this switch a roo. And to have gotten things to a point that the professor had to step in to stop it, well that speaks for itself. There are boundaries, and we all have to live within them, from your post it sounds like you like to push them to the limits.
To not take it seriously, and to think that these games, flirting, are ok is wrong. Respect is respect, and none of that is respect for a person you claim to love. To throw something in someones face, or to act that way is not cool. Sure what the guy I dated for a month and went away with turned out to be a creep. Hindsite is 20/20, I saw none of this when we dated. And we went places I liked, places he liked, spent time just one on one, ran into people I know, ran into people he knew.
I started to date my ex-husband in high school, thru college, got engaged, got married and then got divorced. That guy was actually what could of been called my second long term relationship. And yes the second man I was ever with. I was really lucky with my first and hope, one day, to find that love again. Again, say what you mean and mean what you say.