My GF falls for an online guy? HELP PLEASE!

[C0LLeGeGuy]

I am coming from the other side of this here. I met my wife online,she was dating her ex for 5 years. She found me online and started to care about me because he wasnt treating her like he use to, seem to lose interest in her and pond on always just wanting sex from her and basically moaning was their only conversation.
Now I am not saying that she is going to run off and marry this guy like in my current situation....what I am saying is dude pay more attention to her, surprise her...bring home flowers, cook her breakfast in bed do something just because you love her, no special occasion...
Think hard why is she talking with this guy online really caring for him...most likely he listens, talks to her, just asks her how she is doing, tellling her is misses her when he isn't talking with her, gets into her mind and stimulates her mentally.... I am not a expert.

[raez]

Originally Posted by smallestoftheclan

it's like you're waiting for the one that says awwww poor pitiful her you need to stay. Well I don't see it coming, unless it's from that brother doing his sister in his and his wife's home. Delusional....

Small..you crack me up lol


I agree with all here.. this chick is probably too cowardly and afraid of being alone to leave herself, so has dumped the ball into your court. Take it and run with it..far far away.

[idnnowhtmdoin]

Originally Posted by Dbondjuk

Hi, my name is David and I'm 21 years old. My girlfriend's name is Amy and she is 20. We have been dating for 2 years now, since the 24th of Sept., but I think we ran into a huge problem. We both play this game called World of Warcraft which I'm sure most of you people have heard of if not, it doesn't really matter. Anyways, I guess since July 2008 she has been talking to this guy on the game. I never got jealous of anything of this sort because it was just usually harmless and she knew her place was with me. About a month ago, she told me she had developed feelings for this guy over the internet that she plays the game with. She told me that she has been heart broken for a few months because I have let the game take me over instead of paying attention to her. Since I wasn't giving her what she wanted which was romance, this guy has been romancing her over the internet. Saying sweet things to her, and he confessed his love for her. The odd thing is she has never seen a picture of him, but he has seen a pic of her before.

One day she came out of the bathroom and I happen to be heading that way, and she started crying and told me she doesn't know if she loves me anymore. We talked for weeks about all of this, but she said she doesn't feel a spark anymore, yet she says she loves me. I noticed a difference in her body language and knew it was more then that. I found out that she has very strong feelings for this guy over the internet and she claims she does for me as well. After a few weeks, I went away for the weekend to give her time to think, but from what I found out she still " doesn't know" What she wants. She tells me every day she loves me a lot and all this stuff. Ever since I found out about all of this, I have been sweeping her off her feet with romantic things, ranging from flowers to romantic dinners, to walking on the beach at night, sunsets, going out to dinner, and everything else you can think of. Now I have access to her AIM logs and WoW Chat logs and I have read them a few times before when I had a feeling she was hiding stuff from me. I have been good about trusting her lately, because I'm trying to get over this whole thing about him and her. The other night at our anniversary dinner, i asked her if we were Ok. (This was about a month after all the shit hit the fan and I heard nothing bad about this) She said she is still trying and she still has feelings for this guy and they just don't go away. I can understand that, but how can she tell me every day she loves me? If she doesn't I think I wouldnt be living here anymore with her. But for some reason I'm still here, she says she loves me a lot, she says " I Tried thinking of life with out you and i cant do it." She wants to do things with me, like going to movies and stuff, yet she still doesnt know who she wants?

I don't really know what I'm asking for her, but I'm so confused about what I should be doing. I've given her some space, i quit the computer stuff so i can focus on what matters to me the most in life. I want to marry her someday, but the way thigns are now I dont know what the hell is going on. She never wants to talk about it because we talked so much about it before. I've cried many times and so has she, but she still doesn't know what she wants to do. When we go out, you wouldnt even guess something was wrong. This is so messed up and twisted I dont know whats going on lol.

What would you guys/girls do? Would you walk away from her? I've read some logs where he said he loved her and she said i love u back to him. I've also seen him say sexual things to her, like "if you dont call back ill have to fuck you even harder and punish you" (bondage sex stuff) Which shes into. I guess we have great sex, but It could be better, and thats why i'm on this site a lot reading things.

What should I do? Should I continue to stick though this? DO I have anything to worry about with this kid over the internet? I mean he tried to kill himself over her at one point, but i personally think this kid is lieing and bullshitting everyone. he makes her feel sorry and bad for him and shes so blindsided by it and wont listen to me. I've tried to ask her to cut it off with him but i get the same shit about, I cant just forget about him that easily.

Anything ANYONE can give that is credible, I would really appreciate it. Sorry for the huge wall of text, but I really need some help here. My life is a living hell right now, I get so paranoid when shes on the game or even on AIM, or at school. I know they text each other too. Its so bad I even dream about this kid coming down here and taking her away, or i dream about her leaving.

Please, anything would help. Thanks for your time....

Hey David how she go today?..dunno when you posted this cause im knew to this whole site..but i wouldnt worry to much about it ..keap doin what your doin and tell'er you love her even if she dont truely love you back..im sure that spark will come back sooner or later..(lets hope sooner) for you and Amy's sake ..you guys have had good times..try takin her out to the place you guys FIRST went to when you first met and make it a night to remember (candles wit a moonlit dinner) maybe a long walk on the beach ,..never know might help..or you can go to a place in the woods and have a nice picnic (as lame as it sounds) just you and her no cell phones (bring them incase something bad happens) but go to a private place and just soak in the sounds of nature let the wind whistle in your ears its nice to get out and be happy with the one you love anyways i hope my advice helps take care man and remember keap your chin up smile and try to be happy cheers budd

[creamybeaver]

David, no offence or anything but you really have dropped on a plonker here!! Anybody who falls in "love" with a troll/elf on World of Warcraft really needs to get their head checked out.

I mean come on!! This guy is a guaranteed big fat loser who only moves out of his chair to get a couple of donuts.

You shouldn't even be worrying for christs sake! Let her talk to him! You honestly think she is going to spend the rest of her life on her computer chatting with this loser??

Infact, my brother has this ventrilo thing on his comp. Do you want me to do you a favour and have a serious chat with this guy, or maybe even your girlfriend?? All i need is their usernames. If you want me to, dont worry i wont fall in "love" with your Girlfriend because unlike this guy, i have a life.

You seem like a nice guy and it seems unfortunate that your Girlfriend likes to live in a virtual reality.

Good luck pal.

[DickDragon]

What I think is, that if this is still going on after two months, tell her how it is. You need to let her know how you feel about it all. If she cant come to her senses and realize whats in front of her face then she really has no idea what it is. I know what its like to lose someone you love to somebody else. Im on my second marriage because of that. Its gonna be hard to move on if it comes down to that. But you'll carry on, you seem like a nice guy that would do what it takes to make a relationship work, not everyone is like that.

I know awhile back I would talk to old friends from school and meet new people online. I'd talk to them about all kinds of stuff, even sexual stuff, I have never met them. My wife found out, she got pissed, and i stopped doing it when she asked me to. I knew she didnt really wanna leave me and i wanted her in my life, so it was that simple. Do the same to her, say hey, either you stop talkin to him like that or im gone. See what happens. She may stop, it might take her a bit to push the feelings out her head, who knows. Do what you think will make you happiest in the long run.

Or maybe she just is talkin to him and will never leave you. You wont know till you confront her head on with whats up. I know you have talked about it before, but that didnt help nothing, make her feel as if she is gonna be the one losing out, not you.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Amazing how much power people give these electrons on a screen. They flow through the ether destroying marriages and lives. Wow!

Or rather they don't - it is the silliness of fearing "oh I'm losing him/her to some online person" that does it. And that cute babe he's talking to is really some out of work 64 yr old guy who looks like something the dog threw up and is socially handicapped enough to still have the maturity of a 12 yr old.

Ah me! What fools these mortals be!

[Newtolove]

Originally Posted by Dbondjuk

Hm... I quit voluntary because the game was taking over my life. It helped me to ruin the relationship I have with my girlfriend. And yeah, I love her so much that I'm putting myself through all this pain and agony, hoping that it will blow over soon. I want to be with her so badly and she knows this. I mean, as of right now, every thing seems to be ok. But then again, I really don't know... She still talks to him, and the only way I found out that she still has feelings was by snooping around her logs on the computer. I hate to do that because I want to trust what she says, yet I don't wanna be lead on for a long time.

so tyou gave it up because it was running you life but its running hers and as sera very corectly put it she's falleni n love with a fictitiuos person. if shes in that much doubt why don't she meet him for real and make up her mind ?

[CrackBaby]

lol sweet troll.

don't worry dude she'll meet him in real life and realize how ugly the guy probably is.

[EvilEvilKitten]

She didn't meet him because she didn't want to meet him. Meeting him in real life was never the point. For her it was just an ego boost. "The oh you're so beautiful!" women get online has become the modern 'romance novel'.

[jordan27]

A relationship only works if both people are willing to work on it and it sounds like see not trying. She knows whihch one she wants. It sounds like there is something else othere than love keeping her to you. Cause if she really loved you and you gave up all that she asked and you are doing what she siad she wanted then there something else she not telling you. I say leave if she loves you then she come back to you. If she dosen't then at least you got out before you got hurt even more