being asked by a girl

[duh477]

I was recently thinking ive only gone out with a few girls but everytime we have done something ive had to make the date or plans no girl has ever invited me to do anything ever, is that normal? If girls liked me more would they invite me or am I just overthinking?

[dancingdoc2]

Here are my thoughts:

T#1- The guys make the dates by calling and asking her out.

T#2- If a girl is having a (birthday) party and you are in her social circle then she will probably ask you.

T#3- As a relationship with a girl progresses then she might very well ask you out or inform you that she has tickets for some event or that she would like to do this or that, or ask if you are interested in doing this or that with her.

[Gorgeous Mistake]

What doc said!

Just because they don't ask you doesn't mean they don't like you, they might be afraid of rejection or even feel like it's the "boy's job."

Doc your posts are getting shorter and shorter, what is this insanity???

Just wanted to add, not because I'm insecure in any way, shape, or form; but I have never asked out a guy or suggested going anywhere to a male I was interested in. I have suggested going somewhere to a male friend though. I've never really have had to ask out a guy, nor would I think I would ever have a reason to. The only times I have suggested or been like "hey you wanna go to.. blah blah" would be if we were already in a relationship where it was obvious we were going to hang out, but I wanted to go to a certain place.

[Ducy]

My guess is doc has been having a few rough days!

[Gorgeous Mistake]

Jeez Doc you're worrying me, what's going on?

[arutha]

It is typically seen as the male's job to make the initial moves like that. Both from a social perspective and because males are the dominant sex, we are meant to take the lead. The fact that they agree to go out with you is the sign that they like you.

And as the doc said, after a few dates if they really like you then they will start suggesting things. Very few girls will make the opening move. They try more to figure out ways to get guys to make the move, rather than getting the confidence to do it themselves.

[Mr. Saint]

I have never had a girl ask me out, directly on the first few dates. However I have had a girl basically tell me to ask her out.

[smallestoftheclan]

Do they still have Sadie Hawkins dances in school? I know in this case the girl is kinda "forced" into asking a boy, yet it is a she asks event. I do think for the most part when I have asked a guy out it's been when a bunch of us are together discussing a event and asking one of the guys if he wants to go with me.
Although while dating Goof, if I wanted to go over I had no issues with calling and inviting myself over for dinner...LOL

[EvilEvilKitten]

Some women and girls have a problem with asking a guy out and some do not; but most prefer you to volunteer as a way of judging your interest level.