been together since november 2007

[rosebanks]

so i don't know if it counts as a new or long term relationship but i will post it here and if its moved its moved

so basically i'm a nosey kind of person, i like to be nosey it seems i find out the majority of things i know by being nosey, so last month i go on my boyfriends face book to get his number off of sombody since my phone had broken and i figured his friends on FB would have his number, so i go on n some girl opend a convo and was like "hi back so soon?" so i just said yeah, when was the last time i spoke to you n she said, "ew was that not you?"

so this got me interested in what they had been talking about to i read thier last convo and it was basicaly cyber sex. very descriptive! this really really hurt reading it but i carried on, he said things such as "when im single im going to spend the night with you and do things to you (im keeping this as clean as i can) ive wanted to for ages" and alot more.

i confronted him about this the next day as it felt as though he cheated on me but he obviously never as there was no physical contact.

now everytime hes online or what ever im thinking is he doing it again, as i know he carried his convo on on his phone etc when he went offline. so my question is, was this cheating and was i rong not to dump him? he claims hel never do it again because he could see how much this hurt me

ive also found a picture of her gentials (down south) on his phone he lied about this until i connected it to the facebook chatting and he came clean saying it was hers.

by the way i am 19 my boyfriend is 23.

this has made me very paranoid and made my self esteem take a nose dive.

thank you for any comments in advance.

Rose x

[sera300]

If you both are a couple and exclusive, agreed to by both, I say it's over. Why; it's beyond porn & disgraceful to you. Unless you have an engagement & wedding ring on or have a pending date face it he is is looking elsewhere.

Honestly the cyber stuff is a way to get off or show off. Meanwhile it's fake as well. However, if you are nearing a year and this is his behavior? I would have kicked him to the curb since is disrespectful to you. Seriously, how do you feel that he thought so little of you to do this and only told the quasi truth when you confronted him? I would ask, what else does he do you are not aware of? And trust? Don't bother.

If it was not her, it will be another along the way.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I like being nosy because I find out things that I can use to hit my boyfriend over the head with although we're not married, and it gives me a reason to have no self-esteem, to not trust him, and to go around being all so self-righteous. Like you're a "prize girlfriend"?

IF you had ANY self- esteem, you would not be nosy, aka a prying bitch, in the first place.

IF you were mature, you would not be playing stupid high school games "my phone's broken", you would have asked him directly.

IF you were honorable, you would not have masqueraded as him in Facebook. You would have ended the contact immediately.

What you do is YOUR business and reflects upon you independently of whatever he does.

Dump him?
BUDDY, DUMP HER!
Because by staying with her, you permit her to justify the unjustafiable.

[pink_menace]

what you wont see nor hear wont hurt you emotionally....
so try not to be nosey....