when to start relationship

[duh477]

ive known this girl for about a year and we recently have went out and then another night she came to my house and watched a movie, we kissed and snuggled as guess would be the term? and i like this girl but how and when do we decide if we should be a couple? Ive never had a gf ive gone out with a few girls one time shes the only one who has wanted to be around me twice and I havent told her that because i dont want her to be weirded out. but how do we decide to be a couple and should I tell her about my lack relationship experience?

[sera300]

No, do not discuss previous relationships. Be a couple? Well sounds as if you sort of are. Just keep the dating and when you feel you want a committed relationship which is exclusive have "the talk".

If you are having a good time right now; why add the pressure? You show interest & she does. No need to define what "it" is.

[dancingdoc2]

> i like this girl but how and when do we decide if we should be a couple?

Hi. Have a look at the Index and read the article having to do with "Implied Consent". You can do an advanced search using my name and the term to bring up more discussions. Much of how a man and woman interrelate is by mutual and implied consent. What does this mean? Working together, if you like the woman, it is pretty much a given that you will be making it known both by word and deed. What about her?

Women will generally only invest their time if interested in a guy and giving the friendship some time to see where it leads. If there is a mutual attraction she is very likely to up the ante' perhaps first (and in no particular order) by signaling that it would be nice if you kissed her; second, by looking longingly or expectantly into your eyes; third, holding hands or accepting yours if offered. OK, so how do you know she wants more? There are at least two ways. Here are four:

W#1- She presses up against you when sitting or while walking
W#2- She touches or lightly brushes your arm, etc.
W#3- See above
W#4- Take the lead and test the boundaries
Women do set the boundaries yet they can be tested without asking how far you can go. Just "GO" until she says or otherwise indicates that you have gone far enough. This works relationally as well as with making out.

Please read this article listed in the Index that address the subject:
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping Chapter One.

> should I tell her about my lack relationship experience?

Why? Please read the article in the Index about one person having more experience than the other. Now, read about Implied Consent, again.

So what if you do not have experience; act as if you do. If you behave your way to success, it follows that you will soon develop confidence and experience. It is more important to act and behave confidently (not macho) than to be perfect. Read the second reference, again.

> i dont want her to be weirded out.

As President JFK once stated: "Proceed with all possible 'vigah'". Act confidently, and proceed onward and upward until she stops you. If she does stop you then discuss what it is she wants, what you want, and, how fast to proceed. Boundaries {limits) are set and eventually extended. Just keep testing and moving on. If she does not put up any restraints then assume that she wants the relationship as much as you do and tell her you want to be her boyfriend and very much want her as your girlfriend. If she responds favorably, then develop the relationship over time as if she is giving you the green light--which she is! No need to question her; although, you can certainly ask for her input, ideas, and suggestions along the way.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You do NOT have to be "a couple" to enjoy eachother's company.