what to do?

[servent_of_shlaneesh]

While ultimately this is my choice as it is my life I decided to go and get advice from some people around myself and this seemed like a good place. I am currently in a new relationship that albeit might be moving a tad fast but is in a semi-good place. There are issues that we need to discuss including her issue with a friend of mine that she feels missed some message about what we are. While the friend and I are close and could be a couple that isn't us right now but we could be.

That aside I feel there are some other issues at hand. We have chosen to take a step backwards in our physical ways and I have no problem with that and the basic rule is hands above the belt and no sucking on her at all. In the mean time we are both virgins and this does not pose a problem. But in backing off she now is pushing dry humping as an alternative and this is something that while I am unopposed to I am not 100% on due to the mess I make at my own orgasm. I also get really nervous when we are doing stuff and tend to giggle which is also a big mood killer, and while figuring out a way round this, I am trying to fix this (on a side note i am also super ticklish). While all this is going on I don't feel that we are developing the necessary emotional bond and our tastes seem to drive apart more and more. Any tips on what to do or how to raise these issues?

[dancingdoc2]

Hmmm, seems like I just answered this a day or so ago.

1. Ticklishness is common when a person is turned on. The skin is our largest sex organ. The fix is to apply a bit more pressure when caressing or brushing a hand or arm over an area.

2. Dry humping is fine. As for the mess, well, go prepared by placing a wad of tissue or a wash cloth inside your underware. There is also not a thing wrong with making a mini production out of stuffing something down there just before things become "critical". Make this a fun and light hearted activity.

3. Giggling...well, this is just you being nervous and, again, is no big deal unless you make it one. Tell her you have this "condition" and it will probably go away. One of the most valuable lessons learned in high school was in a public speaking class in which the teacher said that if you are nervous when standing before a crowd, just admit this to them and wa-la, you calm right down.

Are you taking your tops off? I gather that the no sucking restriction applies to her breasts, is this correct? What about other areas of that large sexual organ that I mentioned above? Arms? Hands? Palms? Fingers? Shoulder? Neck? Cheek? Earlobe? Etc?

If the two of you have not yet looked at the Index at the top of the main page, I recommend doing so and reading all or most of the articles listed in it. There are some helpful informative articles that will hopefully make things easier for both of you.

[EvilEvilKitten]

All of you should be dating as many people as you can talk into it. Please note that dating does not mean 'have sex with', it means dating. Stop trying to develop any emotional bonds beyond friendship - this is just practice.

Remember: you're all just friends here.

If anyone wants to be exclusive gf/bf - time to say no thank you.

[pink_menace]

yup...exactly....it's just that there are
a lot of misconceptions about dating for some....
and some men look at it like they will date to have sex....
tsk! tsk! tsk!
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and dancingdoc2's tips and tricks should be put into consideration....