How long is the wait or when do you know?

[TZFBird]

I just started a new relationship a few weeks ago. We have slept together, but nothing sexual. I am not the type that will make a move unless I am 100% sure that she is alright with it. Call me whatever you want, but unless it is alright with her, I don't do anything that is going to get me in trouble. So, as far as what you want to know by how long you should wait? I assume you are male... if not, sorry. From what I've gathered by my GF's reaction to this as well as her friend's astonishment to my behavior, a 'normal' male would have tried any trick in the book to seal the deal.

I wish I could quote my friend who just got married, but I can't remember what he said exactly. It went along the line of... "I've had a lot of sex early on in relationships, but they never end up lasting more than a few months." His words contained a few more F words and name calling than that however. LOL

I have been thinking about this myself, but my GF stated that she is not looking for anything really serious. I guess if you want the relationship to last, wait as long as possible, otherwise I suppose you will pretty much stop trying because you've already tasted the honey, but didn't have to fight the bees for it.

[sera300]

That's one approach...or you can wait and figure out you are not sexually compatible later on; this is also a dimension in a relationship.

So you just you just waited around for someone who is not coming around. This lady already told you she does not want a serious relationship with you; do not wait thinking she will change.

[EvilEvilKitten]

If he is not putting out by the second date, I am gone!

Look at it this way:

First date is the chemistry check and 'do I like him' date.
If the answers are no then there is no second date. Problem solved.
If the answers are yes, then it is time to see if we are sexually compatible.

And that's the second date. The Sexual Compatibility Test.

If he needs more time than that - he is not ardent enough and is therefore not sexually compatible.
BTW
If he needs to fight off the bees before he values the honey, as was so quaintly put, then he is NOT mature enough to even be considered worth my time.

After deciding we're sexually compatible is when we consider building a relationship.

[pink_menace]

as for me I can't actually tell...
it just comes naturally....
like there's some kind of magic....
just be prepared all the time...
you can't just say...were on our 3rd date
we should get down tonight....
just be prepared at all times..
and then it'll just happen
and that is then the perfect moment.....