who chooses the date

[goof'schik]

It may also be money. Maybe she feels that if she makes the suggestion she should pay. Or maybe she thinks you'll laugh at twilight bowling or a trip to see the statue of liberty to expensive. Plane tickets, hotel room(s), breakfast, lunch and dinner, taxi to and from the statue and the hotel and the airport plus you have to buy souviners.

[EvilEvilKitten]

The one who invites is the one who pays.

So, the one who invites knows how much money he/she has and sets up the date accordingly; balancing what he/she knows his/her date would enjoy with the dollars available. This is how adults do this dating thing.

Those with less to spend can do inexpensive things - browsing through used bookstores for example where it isn't what is bought, if anything, so much as the time spent together. Those with more to spend can go to the theatre or something along those lines.

You can always just go for a walk together.

[goof'schik]

And that is my point EEK. If he asks yet asks her to decide what they will do who pays? In my book, him. I stand by my answers, and if you have a thing about public shoes, buy your own bowling shoes and keep them in the trunk. Be prepared for what her suggestion might be.

[pink_menace]

it's still best to talk out the matter with her....
coz sometimes you might end up a dummy
if you jump into conclusion that
she might or she could have like this and that....
talk it out boy....
start with telling her about things you like
and then take it to the slight way of asking her....