For the extremely hot women out there...

[wet_suit_one]

What is your life like knowing that every man that sees you wants to have sex with you? Does it freak you out? How long did it take you to deal with the fact that men are so distracted and overcome by your beauty that they will do most anything to be with you and have sex with you?

I wonder what it is like being on the end of ceaseless, mountainous male desire...

Do tell...

Thanks.

[sera300]

Sorry I'm not THAT hot here, as you describe as "extremely hot" merely attractive & in shape. However, the majority of men I am around would be game, have hinted, or suggested getting personal--even through a "joking" manner. I just believe if a man finds a woman attractive he is willing. I have never been turned down and only dated [had 3 dates] with one man who did not make an attempt.

Make me feel? Well, I prefer men around my own age; however, I will admit it's a "smile maker" for me when I see a man who is much younger who gives me a wink or a quirky smile...hinting or showing interest. Makes me feel "Yes, I still can turn heads". This is not meant to sound egotistical though. Additionally, it's nice when you hit the gym, a man notices that you are in shape. My absolute favorite is; when you load the Smith Press with the weights, a man goes past and asks if he can remove them for you since he thought someone left them on before me [he did not see me struggle to get them all on].

Overall, knowing I could do whatever I wish sexually with those of consent? No great ego boost, I tend to look for men who are sincere rather than those who feed you lines [or try to] just to bed you. As you get older you see through the facade.

I do not see men as having endless desire compelled by beauty/looks/personality. If anything, I was told by a dear male friend, he was younger, he initially thought I was a 8 on a 1-10 scale. However, when he got to know me & we went to a FWB relationship for a few years, he felt at that point I was a 10. I asked why; he said what made me more attractive [in his eyes] was my personality, openness, & willingness to please/try new things sexually. He was a very sweet man. It would be odd if someone would do nearly anything to have sex. As the old saying goes; Anyone can get laid, not everyone can have a connection with the other person.

Perhaps some of the younger women here can give you a better perspective on their experiences. I believe much is influenced by a woman's personal attitude and what they reflect of themselves to men--mainly confidence and being comfortable with who we are as a person.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Some feel the pressure of masculine desire and hate it. Some love it. And some know that a lot of their desire is only because society tells them to behave that way. That their desire is 'expected'.

Me? It is nice but I'm not devastated if men don't desire me.

[pink_menace]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Me? It is nice but I'm not devastated if men don't desire me.

yep...i hate men who are like that... every woman should be respected and
not be treated as a whore.... and it's okay for me if am not desirable to other men out there...as long as my man still thinks that I am....

[EvilEvilKitten]

Asking for sex, or volunteering their services, isn't treating you like a whore - that's when they ask how much btw - it is being male. They may ask 100 females but all it takes to make him a winner is to have 1, just 1 female, say yes. It is all in the numbers - so they tell me.

Women have much the same idea. "You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince."

[emilie]

Well, I'm not 'extremely hot' but fairly attractive (depending on your taste).

What's it like? Well, apart from formal events, I never wear makeup, skirts/dresses, heels or fitted clothing. I also don't have my nails done, style or colour my hair or go out much.

Being viewed as a 'hot' or a sex object is not a compliment for me. I'd rather be invisible (I usually am).

If a man were to dismiss me because of it, I don't want to know him to begin with.

IMHO, this whole idea of a man being controlled by his sex drive and constantly wanting sex from anyone who'll give it, is very harmful. Particularly for men.

[xkatex]

As long as they dont take it farther than looking than no harm no foul. I had had guys hit on me at the racetrack (I race horses), At community events (usually out of towners) and even at hospitals. I dont mind a friendly converstaion with a guy but if within 3 words your flat out asking me for my number its a bit "pushy" for lack of better words.

I have had a guy ask me if I had a boyfriend, I said yes, and his response was "What he doesnt know wont hurt him." I found this rude and it just reeked of conceitedness, it was abosolutely ridiculous.

Now Im not saying Im extrememly attractive but I do get looks from guys and honestly, guys, if you dont know our basicis keep the pick up lines for the night clubs.

[Buck Naked]

I have found that most of the really good looking girls I have talked to in my life say the same thing. Guys want to have sex with them, but they find it really hard to find a guy that truly wants them for the right reasons. That's gotta suck.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Piffle! Really - so males desire you for all the "wrong" reasons - so what.
How many times have you rejected a guy for all of the "wrong" reasons? I'd bet - frequently.

The weight of adoration is nothing when compared to the weight of rejection.

I am tired of males being slammed for just being male. His interest level makes it easy for girls who don't seem to understand that he has to ask 100 girls out to get just 1 to say "maybe". Think of how you'd feel if you had at ask 100 guys out just to get 1 to say "next week?

Quit complaining!!

[constantlylearning]

EEK you are dead on...................from a male's prespective if you reject
a woman's advances I think her scorn could even be worse. It could be
an honest decline.....she wasn't your type for a variety of reasons. I find
that using TACT in these deals is HARD because regardless of how you
put it .......you seem like an AZZZZZZZZZZZZZ.