she keeps coming back into my head

[doinmybest]

Ok so its been two almost three years and i cant help but to think of my first true love i guess you would say.? i've been through 5 or 6 relationships since then all of which were great in their own way, but everytime i see her i cant help but be jealous of the guy she is with/ or just miss her if she is by herself. the thing is i dont judge the relationships or compare them to the one she and i had. (funny had being a past tence) But the problem arises is that none of my friends like the new ones like they did her. this is where my problems come into play cause all of my friends like hailey my Ex better as do my parents and other family members. whenever i become single again i just cant help but sit there and think about calling her just to talk cause i know that we are two different people and that we both had to go our seperate ways cause we just grew apart and it wasnt ment to be even after we tried to save it. anyone got any advice on what to do or at least some first hand expierence that might make things a little easier???

[lnt1103]

She's going to keep popping into your head now and again. First true loves just do that. But let it only go as far as nostalgia and fond memories. If you want, write her a letter just saying basically 'hey how's it going'. I did that years after having heard nothing from a guy I really thought was it (4.5 year HS sweetie), and when the letter I got back talked of his new wife and baby, I was finally able to put what might have been out of my mind no problem (ya think? lol). We then emailed a few times, both said some things left unsaid for all those years, and we rarely communicate now-not because of any problem, but because we both have our own busy lives to lead and they just don't seem to include each other. Expand your horizons in terms of where you go to meet people. Get some encounters with some new folks.

[EvilEvilKitten]

There is a reason why you two are NOT together. Remember it and get on with your life. Stop looking backward and begin looking forward. Your mext lover may be the one that erases all others off the map!

OMG - please do NOT contact her in any way - how LAME would that make you look? A love-sick puppy dog who cannot find another lover. Women want men, not leash-puppies. And it would make her current man laugh his ass off!

[TnL329]

They will pop back into your head at times. My guess is there is something unsaid, or something along those lines. The best thing you can do is just continue going about your business and work on the things that you want to work on. I had a hard time for a long time after one of my ex's, as much as anything cuz every so often she would come back around. At some point I just got sick of the thoughts, sick of dealing with herand found something else to concentrate on. I am a dedicated golfer, and my golf game had been suffering, I rededicated myself to that. I hit golf balls and practiced every waking hour that I could. People began to laugh at me as much as I worked at it. In the end I got real good again at golf, found a form of happiness that I had been missing, then somewhere along the way met some girl (LOL). We have been together nearly a year, and my golf game, well lets just say it is dynamite!!!!

[lnt1103]

I wonder if she gets any credit for the improvement in the golf game?

[pink_menace]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

There is a reason why you two are NOT together. Remember it and get on with your life. Stop looking backward and begin looking forward. Your mext lover may be the one that erases all others off the map!

OMG - please do NOT contact her in any way - how LAME would that make you look? A love-sick puppy dog who cannot find another lover. Women want men, not leash-puppies. And it would make her current man laugh his ass off!

i must agree.... i had experienced that before with an ex....i mean...he was everything i could ever think of...we were in college....i love school and studying...but he wanted to stop and pursue a singing career by joining a band... it was really hard to go on and live a life without him...i got involve with another guy just because this guy resembles him...it didn't last that long
cuz all i could ever think and want is him alone.... whenever i'm single i used to contact him and try to revived what we had....but i was fooling myself...
we are different....so different that it hurts a lot.... then I met the man I am with right now....and this time....i know this is gonna be it....and looking back...i knew the thing about calling him whenever i get alone is kinda shameful and i felt terrible bout mahself.... this time, he's so out of my mind...he's more or less doing well with his life and same goes to me....so yeah....i believe everything happens for a reason.....

[smallestoftheclan]

You need to tell your folks, and your friends, to stop comparing the girls you may go out with now to this one from the past. And from sharing that info with you. You and she are done and you want to find happiness, them putting their, negative, two cents in is not helping.