Need alittle advice

[ruboxxx]

Ok, me and this girl I work with, we just started working together about 2 months ago. Well at the time she was involved in a relationship with another guy, which had just ended last week. Even when she was with this guy we had a tendancy to flirt alot and continue to do so. After she broke up with her boyfriend I began to tell her that I liked her and how beautiful she was. We've never been on a date, because lately she has told me that she doesn't want to lead me on and she's confused about how she feels. Now this has happened to be before with another girl which only ended in us not talking at all. Anyways, I know this girl really values our friendship and she has even told me that I'm a very nice guy and that I respect her. I really do like her, but at the same time I'm wondering if there is a possibility to see if I can make her feelings for me shine if they do exist. So my question is, I'm confused as to what to do. I could go about trying to get her to miss me, but I don't know how I would do that seeing as we work together and not only that but she contacts me everyday. I'm thinking she may like me in some sort of way, but anytime that I try to take her out it just ends up with her saying she will feel bad because she doesn't want to lead me on. Anybody have any advice as to what I should do? I figured I would just continue to be myself around her, I've been doing small things to make her happy and I know she thinks I'm really sweet for those. Thanks for any advice

[ducktales]

She just got out of a relationship so its probably best if you don't try to get into a relationship with her right away because you may end up as just a rebound guy. I'd probably wait it out, continue to be her friend, I think you've made it obvious that you like her, she seems to like you as well but she is confused because of the breakup.

She just needs time, eventually she'll come around.

[ruboxxx]

Thanks duck, I agree with you it's too soon for her to be ready for another relationship, and I don't want to turn out as the rebound guy so I'm just gonna play it cool and see where it goes

[lnt1103]

Yeah. Back up and give her some space to straighten her head out. Be there as her friend, but you've made the first move pretty clearly, now let the ball stay in her court till she decides what to do with it. She needs time to remember who SHE is, without Mr. Ex around, before she can add another Mr. into the mix.

[ruboxxx]

Cool guys thanks for the advice, I was actually shocked because she got ahold of me today and asked if I wanted to go out to eat, we joked around with each other alot and did the same at work until my manager pissed her off which only pissed me off too lol, but yea I'm just gonna play it cool for now, about all I can really do, plus she does need time to get over her ex, even though she said she's not getting back with him, I can't see her being over him already.

[dancingdoc2]

Continue to be friends without strings attached. Do what friends do.

I agree, everybody (man or woman) needs time after the breakup of a relationship to recoup and regroup. Depending upon the length of the relationship, she probably should not consider dating for nine months to a year.

As for you being her friend, you can still do things together and have fun. In the meantime this will give her time to see you and evaluate you before deciding to date more seriously. You on the other hand should date not only her but other people as well. Please read what I have said about dating. Do an advanced search using my name.

[pink_menace]

yup....just continue your friendship...in that way you wont lose
anything...who knows you might gain something
from being patient....
"PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE"

[smallestoftheclan]

Work relationships are also hard because while you are at work you have work to do. It's not that you can't say hi, or talk for a minute or two, longer if on a mutual break, but you also have to get your work done.
I don't know what your manager did to piss her off, but if you were slacking because you wanted to joke around.
There is a time and a place for everything, maybe someone said something to him and as a manager he had to handle the situation.
A good line for you to use if this happens is " ok, lets get back to work before one or both of us gets fired or transferred because coming into work knowing that you're going to be here helps me get out of bed in the morning"