My boyfriend doesn't have the urge for sex.. what do i do?

[marie26]

I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 months now. We don't have sex often which was cool in the beginning. I mean i did fall in love with the guy, i fell in love for him not the sex. He says he just doesn't have the urge for it. I dont wanna cheat on him but im lost.. what do i do?

[sera300]

If he is not willing to figure out what the problem is or to solution it? 2 months & not married? Time to seek someone you are sexually compatible with. Imagine what 2 years will bring...no sex & no interest. Search yesterdays threads, same issue was addressed.

Here:
not enough sex and i dont know what to do

[marie26]

Well he knows that something is wrong with that picture and he says that the fact that he doesn't get the urge bothers him and that he wants to fix it. He says its something he needs to figure out..

[constantlylearning]

I think that I would maybe not be so hasty and see if there is another issue at
play here. Especially, if you think this relationship has staying power and could
eventually lead to something long term. Sometimes, it is easy to forget that some
are not so self-assured (especially if you are) and have insecruities for a variety of
reasons.

[marie26]

I don't know what he could be insecure about he says the sex is great and hes very good in bed. I have no problem with it when we do it and he knows this. i have to initiate it most of the time. i don't know how to help him fix the problem i see this going into something long term and so does he. he says he'll eventually get it back. So do i sit here and wait. i have a high sex drive i lost it once for personal reasons but i got it back. I never denied the person i was with i always used to just go for it..

[EvilEvilKitten]

Get yourself a new boyfriend. Why? Can you actually see yourself having to beg for sex for the next 30 to 40 years?!?! Do NOT kid yourself - sex is a VERY important part of EVERY relationship.

He should go and get checked out by the doctor.

(How can you have possibly fallen in love in 2 months?!?! Infatuation perhaps but not love. What can you possibly know about him?)

[CleverName]

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[CleverName]

Maybe he is nervous about getting you pregnant. That would be an issue for me if my gf wasn't on bcp's. (Even though she is, I still worry from time to time)

[TnL329]

Maybe he just loves it when the girl initiates. I love it when my GF goes after what she wants!

[EvilEvilKitten]

He's 21 - at his peak hormone period and he doesn't want sex? Excuse me, but something's wrong - with him. Get him to a doctor.