i don't under stand

[neeta]

i have been with my bf for one year now but he is not responding to me the same any more i can't seem to get hem horny no matter what and every time i try to talk to hem he tells me that he needs to daydream i don't under stand why can some one help me out here

[dancingdoc2]

Sounds very much like there is no "chemistry" between the two of you. No "sparks", no pheromones, no response. He may like you. He may love you, yet is he "in love" with you. There are differences in a person's sexual response to each.

The other possibility is that he has a very limited method of arousing himself. If he needs to fantasize in order to masturbate then this is very likely his problem. Solution: be his fantasy girl?

[EvilEvilKitten]

By his actions, you will know him.
So what does he do? Nothing. And the n he tells you that he has think of someone else (even if just a fantasy) to get aroused???!?!?

Take the hint - and leave him.

This is not a boyfriend, this is a guy who is looking for a way out of this relationship. Time for you to move on, kiddo.

[neeta]

he thinks of when we have sex but when i am sitting right there he can't get horny unless i just sit there and wate tell he is done daydreaming

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oh joy! So when are you going to stop being an accommodating child?
The man SHOULD be daydreaming of you every waking moment - which he isn't. You are merely "convenient". And you sit there like a "good girl" waiting. PFFT!

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by neeta

he thinks of when we have sex but when i am sitting right there he can't get horny unless i just sit there and wate tell he is done daydreaming

He's playing games, or more precisely he is on a power trip which is the beginning of being very controlling personality.

[silver_jk_alakalec]

it could also be he just enjoys sitting with you sometimes more than haveing sex and says that so he can just sit there with you as long as posible and then have sex. i mean i know with me i sometimes just want to be holding the one i love vs haveing sex, though it is very fun . but thats just me mabye you are different who knows

[ducktales]

every time you try to talk to him he says he has to daydream?

I know you are having a difficult time but that just sounds funny to me. So basically every time you start talking to him he say "hold on..." and then drifts off into his own world JD(from Scrubs) style?

Anyway to try and be serious and helpful it doesn't seem like he is really into you anymore it may be time to end it but you need to talk to him about this. Communication is the key. Write him a letter, send him an e-mail, just something to tell him what you are feeling and how his behavior is making you feel. Communication, communication, communication.

[dancingdoc2]

> Write him a letter, send him an e-mail, just something to tell him what you are feeling and how his behavior is making you feel. Communication, communication, communication.


Aahh, the younger generation.... Whatever happened to voice communication and eye contact?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Hey if the guy wants to be alone enjoying the images in his head - let him! ALONE being the operative word.