Need some advice

[hgn08]

Ok, I've been friends with this girl for 6-7 months now and we hang out atleast twice a week. Ever since we've become friends I've always wanted to be something more. We do stuff like dinner, shopping, movies etc. and every time we hang out I want to tell her how I feel but I'm afraid I might lose her as a friend. Any tips?

[dancingdoc2]

Yup!

Tip #1. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Tip #2. If the friendship is solid you won't loose her as a friend

Tip #3. Act on T#1. T#2 will continue if you state your feelings and she does not feel the same way IF the two of you agree to continue on as just friends. Even if the two of you are not a romantic match, your friendship should be all the stronger for having shown that you care very deeply for her.

You'll continue to wonder and wish if you do not take action. If she does not want anything more than a friendship with you, then the friendship will continue whether you declare your feelings or not. If she does want more from your relationship she is probably waiting and wondering when you will take action and why it hasn't happened yet.

Now, go for it!

[hgn08]

Thanks!

...one thing I forgot to mention is we've talked about relationships before and she doesn't really seem to like them at all.

...would that change anything?

[arutha]

Any girl will enter a relationship if she finds the right person...

In your case, you may have ventured too far into the friends zone. You should not have waited around being her friend for so long, you need to show a girl that you are a sexual person early on so she thinks of you in that way rather than as a friend, and flirt with her then make a move. If you haven't really done much flirting with her yet, I would probably just keep her as a friend and pursue other girls. A girl who is just a friend is good company, great social proof and very useful.

However, if you are determined to try with her (and its true it probably won't harm your friendship in the long run, just make things a little bit awkward for a while) then don't just tell her how you feel. You need to show it by making a physical move, trying to kiss her. Flirt with her, touch her if you don't already, then at the end give her a kiss. Don't expect success, but still be confident and positve, and remember rejection hurts towhere near as much as getting home and wishing you had tried something if you don't.

[goof'schik]

Ok here is my two cents. You have to find a place where it is just the two of you. And set some guidelines, girls talk and boys talk (so I have found out). I am in a friends with benefits relationship with someone who does no want to be in a relationship. He's 60, no kids, never a wife, and before me the longest relationship he was ever in was 2 years.
He freaks if I say I care about you, can you imagine if I told him that I loved him? Which I do, very deeply infact. But I will never change him, I will never hear I love you or will you marry me or any of the words that I want to hear. I have to decide is what I have enough or do I give up sex. Have you seen what is on dating sites. And that is what I am going to do, decide, and as much as I love sex, and even more sex with him, I think I am going to give it up.

[EvilEvilKitten]

When the desire outweighs the fear...then you may ask, not before.