keeping it new and fun

[predecessor]

hey guys ive been dating a girl for about 6 months now and were both very sexual. i was just wondering if there are any ideas or positions to get the initial thrill back...its almost like were just having sex to have it and its lost its magic. any tips on getting it back!??

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

Please look at the links on the Home Page. There are many animated illustrations of sexual positions that the two of you can try, evaluate, enjoy--or not. Of those that you find of interest, keep them to try again every so often.

Next, look at the many articles listed in the Index and read those that address the how-to's of making love.

Next, read through the forums.

Next, Get a copy of "The Joy of Sex".

Next, ask her what she'd like to try.

Very often, you can do a lot to spice things up, not only from learning about new and different things to do that you did not know about; spice also comes from how you two go about making love. Mix things up. Be spontaneous. Try making love by facing the foot of the bed instead of the head. Make love on the bathroom floor, table, washing machine, off the beaten path of a trail, etc.

Make her the priority and the goal, not intercourse. In other words, focus on the emotional aspect of making love, not the physical pleasure.

[arutha]

Try teasing her, build her up and make her anticipate it more. A day or so before you are going to see her, give her a call/message/email elling her how you can't wait to see her and what you want to do with her. Flirt a bit, make suggestive comments to get her thinking about it.

Then when you see her and are making out, run your fingers up and down her inner thighs but without going to her crouch, then when she is quivering very gently rub and tickle her through her clothes. After a bit of this, stop and do something non-sexual for a while. Do this until she is ready to explode.

[EvilEvilKitten]

WHAT!?!? 6 months and the thrill is gone??

What's WRONG with you that you seek that initial thrill rather than deepen the realtionship - going after a far richer and more emotionally satisfying lovelife than mere initial conquest and infatuation? Yuo really know nothing about this girl yet.

Buddy, check inside your head before you go reaching for the sex manuals.